How to tell family member I don't want them looking after LO?
Hi ladies,
I know I am early in asking this, but my LO is 4 months, and I'm hoping to take the full 12 months off if possible. I have to go back to work, and before I finished up, they agreed that I could go down to 4 days a week. My OH works Sats, so he has a day off midweek. So that leaves 3 days where we need childcare. OH Mum and Dad said they will help out, so I'm hoping they will do 2 days, and if they are happy to, do the third day too.
My SIL (OH's brothers wife) moved here from eastern Europe over a year ago, and has floated from job to job, but hasn't worked in the last 6 months. She's pretty lazy, and doesn't like working- her words! I have visions of her wanting to take care of LO, and I don't want her too. I'm already dreading leaving LO with her grandparents, who I trust completely. I don't want her to look after her.
And tips on how I can avoid this?!
I know I am early in asking this, but my LO is 4 months, and I'm hoping to take the full 12 months off if possible. I have to go back to work, and before I finished up, they agreed that I could go down to 4 days a week. My OH works Sats, so he has a day off midweek. So that leaves 3 days where we need childcare. OH Mum and Dad said they will help out, so I'm hoping they will do 2 days, and if they are happy to, do the third day too.
My SIL (OH's brothers wife) moved here from eastern Europe over a year ago, and has floated from job to job, but hasn't worked in the last 6 months. She's pretty lazy, and doesn't like working- her words! I have visions of her wanting to take care of LO, and I don't want her too. I'm already dreading leaving LO with her grandparents, who I trust completely. I don't want her to look after her.
And tips on how I can avoid this?!
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A year is a long time and your sister in law could very easily have her own baby to look after by then, so I wouldn't think too much about it until a lot nearer the time.
Hope this helps
xxx
my mil used to say she wanted lo all the time, for one day a week. ikept saying no. the last time she pushed it and i said we're fine firmly and she left in a sulk and hasnt mentioned it since!
She might think it'd be easy money or just something to do. But she probably has no idea how hard looking after a toddler is for 1 hour, let alone a whole day!!
If the in-laws can't manage 3 days, would you consider childminder or nursery? xx