You're gonna love this one mums! Let us know your frankest explainations of how birth feels.... what's a contraction like?? What did it feel like when your baby crowned??
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When i was pregnant for the first time i expected contractions to start at the top of my bump and work its way down - a bit like a snake swallowing a big meal in one go!
My contractions just felt like my whole tummy was contracting in one big squeeze, and i cant really compare the pain to anything because i dont think it is like any other pain, not in that its the worst pain ever but it's just a 'different' pain.
When my babies crowned it stung a bit but not too much - but when the head was delivered it was instant relief!
At the start contractions just feel like the Braxton-Hicks contractions you get in the second half of pregnancy. Then they start to feel like really bad period pains - the sort that go down your thighs and make you legs feel wobbly. Towards the end of the first stage it starts to feel like someone is wringing out your insides like a giant sponge! I found that fighting the pain made it worse, but accepting the pain and trying to ride through it made it less intense.
I found the urge to push really strange and intense. Calling it an"urge to push" is a bit like calling vomiting the "urge to empty your stomach" - your body just does it and trying to stop your body doing it takes a lot of concentration!
As for crowning - yeah a giant chinese burn LOL! But relaxing and panting here can save you from the days of discomfort from stitches!
I found that during labour(and I did it 5 times) I became detached from my surrondings and very insular and highly focused on what was happening to my body. I only spoke to my husband who then had to relay what I said to the midwives!
Most of all I would say to all expectant mums that our bodies are designed to have babies and you really can do it. The power of positive thought goes a long way.
My labours have mostly started with period type pains which gradually get stronger.You think for a while I'm in pain,yes childbirth hurts but this isn't so bad.Then labour starts for real and you remember what it's really like.It's a strange pain cos it comes and goes.One minute you're in intense pain and then it's gone,you barely have time to say "wow that was a strong one" and they start again.There's a point though when labour takes over and it all becomes nature,I'd agree Amy,animalistic,and the outside world seems to fade out.I can remember with my 5th,she was at home,and it was just my husband and a midwife and they were asking questions,the midwife wanted to examine me but baby's head was just there and I found myself telling the midwife to go get the gas and air NOW and no way could I lay flat on my back and be examined.I couldn't manage talking,or I'm sure I'd have been more polite. I could half hear what was going on,but I was in my own little world at that moment and I just knew what was happening and what I needed to do.Afterwards I was so embarassed for being so rude,but I suppose the midwife has had worse than bossy Mumsabouttobe telling them what to do.But I was actually right.
The head crowning definately feels like a Chinese burn.Although the contractions .My last two babies had to be assisted.I had a midwife with the last who insisted although I was 7cm dilated I should be able to push the baby out.Of course she was wrong which she half admitted hours later and I had a section.
The thing I always remember about labour is how you're in so much pain and you want the baby out so bad and the moment they're out the pain is gone and they're there on your belly looking all confused.
My labours started with a sore back and the feeling that something wasnt quite right! Pretty soon it progressed to the really bad stomach cramps like when Im on my period, going all the way round the bottom of my back. Thankfully for 2 out of my 3 pregnancies I have had an epidural so have only endured it 'properly' once and once was more than enough!!
Having said that, ds2's\birth was probably the only time i felt completely with it despite the fact that i had the gas and air mask constantly clamped over my mouth. When you feel ready to push, its really weird, its like it totally takes control of your body and you cant stop it. When the head crowns, you cant quite believe you can stretch that far and it really really stings, but once it slips out, its such a relief.
I tried to show my partner and some male friends what labour feels like. I told them how the pain isn't like, say being cut, but it's the pain of intense exercise. I got them to do push ups/ sit ups for the same lenght of time as a contraction, gave them a break then got them to do it again. It didn't take many repatitions before they said it hurt. Now try that for several hours..thats why we get so tired and grumpy lol!
I tore with both my girls and that was far more painfull than the contractions, it really stung and yes felt like a burn to.I was made to push with both of them and I think thats why as my body wasn't quite ready. My two boys were fine (both home births), much bigger but pushed when I was ready. In fact I had the sureal experiance with my youngest in that I was trying not to push (waiting for the midewife to arrive) and my body just took over and did it anyway. Amazing experiance.....and what about that adrenalin high afterwards!