Controlled crying when weaning from bfing to bottle
Hi girls,
Hope that you and babies are all well. I haven't posted for a long time on here but used to post occassionally on Due in January.
I have been exclusively bfing my son, he is now 9 months and I have started to wean him off the breast. I thought that this would happen off his own accord however he is not very interested in solid food so we are BLWing him. This of course means that he is not actually eating all that much food therefore is hungry for more milk. Until 3 weeks ago ge point blank refused to take any kind if bottle, after trying most. He then one day took a whole bottle, and we ate now trying no breast during the day (2 bottles instead) and just breast first and last feed, and for any night wakings.
The problem is that I feel so cruel, he has been used to the breast for 9 months for food, but also for comfort (he normally falls asleep on the breast and always had done for his naps and during last deed). Therefore we have issues with many night wakings due to association and needing the breast to fall back to sleep. So...
Sorry for my rambling...
I am now trying controlled crying for his naps in the day so that even though he is being bottle fed (doesn't always take it depending on mood, but I try really hard not to offer breast), he still needs to nap. If he us near me he just gets more and more upset and frustrated wanting the breast. Today he had taken half an hour for his morning and afternoon nap, crying hysterically with me going in every 10 mins sshhing and reassuring. Is this the right thing to do in the long run?
Any help or responses on any of this would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks.
Hope that you and babies are all well. I haven't posted for a long time on here but used to post occassionally on Due in January.
I have been exclusively bfing my son, he is now 9 months and I have started to wean him off the breast. I thought that this would happen off his own accord however he is not very interested in solid food so we are BLWing him. This of course means that he is not actually eating all that much food therefore is hungry for more milk. Until 3 weeks ago ge point blank refused to take any kind if bottle, after trying most. He then one day took a whole bottle, and we ate now trying no breast during the day (2 bottles instead) and just breast first and last feed, and for any night wakings.
The problem is that I feel so cruel, he has been used to the breast for 9 months for food, but also for comfort (he normally falls asleep on the breast and always had done for his naps and during last deed). Therefore we have issues with many night wakings due to association and needing the breast to fall back to sleep. So...
Sorry for my rambling...
I am now trying controlled crying for his naps in the day so that even though he is being bottle fed (doesn't always take it depending on mood, but I try really hard not to offer breast), he still needs to nap. If he us near me he just gets more and more upset and frustrated wanting the breast. Today he had taken half an hour for his morning and afternoon nap, crying hysterically with me going in every 10 mins sshhing and reassuring. Is this the right thing to do in the long run?
Any help or responses on any of this would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks.
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associating breast with comfort is a hard cycle to break, but you will get there.
my baby stopped wanting breast at 8 months so it wasnt too bad for me but i think if you persevere he'll understand soon, just make sure he knows you're still there and that he is safe.
xxx
good luck
As to daytime naps, my lo will only nap on me, but when he is at nans, he settles himself happily. When mummy is about he wants to be with me and I love that!