@dawyldthing glad to hear he is sleeping a little more for you!
I have a 3cm tear in my stomach muscle - need physio on my tummy in a couple of weeks, and wearing an elastic support band. I’m also hoping it heals! I also still have a jelly belly, and hoping the “pouch” im left with after my section disappears. Though I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight now!
I’m not sure how big mine is, but as soon as she said to sit up she said that I’d need to come back. It was hurting too much keep sitting up to pick him up to feed so I’ve been on the recliner chair all week. Felt better for it mind. Have they gave you the exercises to do too to bring them together. I’m doing them a bit but struggling to fit them in 5 times a day
Hi all! Sorry I have not updated this. Glad to hear everyone is doing well. Baby Marina was born in May in the end, but I hope is ok with you if I keep posting here! Labor was long but a beautiful experience. I feel I recovered very well and we are loving our family life. We are not sleeping too bad for now and the only difficult thing for me is cluster feeding and colic.... Breastfeeding is beautiful but really hard and I worry I will struggle when my husband is back to work. Physically all is well. Stitches feeling much better and my tummy, even though Is jelly like and separated, is going back to normal slowly.
Congratulations Rutxi, she's beautiful! You'll be fine, just be gentle to yourself and don't push yourself too hard. Liam's not 10 weeks old and I've only just started to have some sort of routine with him, he goes longer between feeds and sleeps a bit more so I can get some housework done. There are days when I don't get the chance to even shower if my hubby is doing a silly shift then I'm here without help but that's OK too, as long as the baby is OK, nothing else matters. You're doing a great job, looking after a little human! 👌💕
Just need to rant so sorry if I sound miserable ladies!
Husband works all week so fair enough I guess it’s my responsibility to get up with the baby and do night feeds and changes. He however doesn’t do any night shifts on the weekend again it’s all me the only thing he does is get up early Saturday with her so I can sleep in. I feel like I can’t ask for any help over night in the week because he has to get up for work but equally I’m starting to really feel down and low about myself and now aren’t enjoying my time with baby as much. I now feel guilty that I can’t even look after my baby properly as I find myself moaning at her through the day and night when she’s screaming to stop. He will just leave her to cry when his home unless I ask him to get her I just feel like I’m useless and we’re meant to be a team but I’m doing it all by myself. I’m that exhausted I’m starting to wake up each time feeling sick and so ill to the point I don’t even want to bother getting up today. I know today is just a bad day as she’s not been sleeping great and keeps waking every hour or so and she’s not been doing this so I’m getting less sleep than before but I just feel alone and that I can’t talk to my husband without him thinking I’m lazy and asking him to help in the week and work is being selfish?
Urgh guess I’ll try getting back to sleep while she’s sleeping. Just feel like one lonely mummy right now.
Sorry for the rant! X
First of all @Chkitty you are doing an AMAZING job! Looking after a tiny human is a full time job, and a challenging one at that. You are spot on with the word “team” you and your husband are a team, as well as baby... and he needs reminded of this. He may work - but I’m a firm believer in the modern take on parenthood that looking after the baby should be 50:50 these days. He may go out and bring in the money, but you are bringing up and nurturing a baby which is a FULL TIME JOB! The jobs should be shared the best they can. My partner works full time, I’m up more through the night as I’m breastfeeding. However, I wake him up to change baby after being fed and winded. It’s his job to change baby and sometimes settle him back to sleep. Also he takes baby from 6am-8am weekdays to play and read to him before work for “bonding time” and whilst I sleep. Your husband needs to realise just how you are feeling, and how this is affecting you and your family unit. It would be worth sitting down with him and having serious words, I’m sure he would hate to know just how much it’s all affecting you and HIS little family. Chin up misses - like I said, you are doing the most amazing job! And we are all here for you. Now go get your much deserved rest!
Arr rant away. I know how you feel as mum is here and helps when she can but it’s tough trying to do it all on next to no sleep. Even going to the toilet is a challenge ashe’ll often start as soon as I move. I think there’s a lot of blokes that do the same though. I’ve read on them still going to casinos and out for the weekend, they still live like singletons. One thing I will say is helping me is having something I enjoy each day. So Sunday they’ve started doing Sunday dinners local you can pick up, I’ve been going uptown most days. Sometimes the break from the house, even tho I’m shattered, with him does me good. But you are doing a fab job, this newborn stage is damn hard work, tiring plus the endless questions of breastfeeding and the likeget tiring, but will be worth it in the end. Chin up hun, you’re doing a fab job x
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Hi ladies! Sorry for being so quiet I keep half writing messages and then get distracted 😂 We're doing well, Harrison has been a really good baby so far aside from some fussiness over a couple of growth spurts (he's grown LOADS), he sleeps and eats really well! Hubby tool of 5 weeks paternity / annual leave but is actually going to go back a week early, the day after the bank holiday as we're doing well. He's then using that extra week for Portugal to visit my family at the end of June. Harrison's passport arrived yesterday, it's so funny!!
Hubbys been good, he does the night nappies and burping if I ask him to. I've got a really fast let down so do struggle with the burping and it's needed after every feed. When he goes back to work he'll stop doing the night time help as he needs to have energy for work. It'll be more of a struggle for me but I'm not working so think it's okay - will be expecting his help on the weekend though!
Someone mentioned money a while back, was it Mellymop? Have you opened up a savings account for your baby? I did it last week - so any money gifted went straight in there! Means it doesn't get spent elsewhere.
How are those who are breastfeeding finding it? I'm finding the feeding okay but it's quite a challenge when I'm out and about because of this let down. My milk ends up spraying everywhere, last night we went to boxpark for dinner and I had to sit with a wet patch on one nipple as he kept coming on and off during the feed soaking both of us!!
Also, I know it's early days but has anyone planned any time apart from the baby? It's my friends birthday on the 7th when he'll be 6 weeks, and also some other drinks as well so I've set that as my first night out (as long as he can take a bottle from hubby). It does feel early but hopefully it'll all go okay!!
Thanks for your messages guys really appreciate it I’m going to talk to him tonight as I’m so upset today!
Imo it’s my first wedding anniversary this Friday and we’re going back to the place we got engaged for three nights without Callie. Right now I’m looking forward to it just so I can sleep but on other hand I don’t want to be apart but it’s needed I need a break!
I’m breastfeeding in the day and formula feed at night, if we go out I’ll take formula or bottled breast milk she’s been fine going from bottle to breast and also uses a dummy!
@Chkitty I totally understand, My husband was like that with my first and I felt the same, I was off on maternity so I should do it all myself, it ruined my time with my son as I was so stressed and tired. I remember he used to do the last feed at night (we dreamfed at 11ish) then I would do everything else! Things are different this time and I ask him to get up at 6am if I’ve been up and down all night, and one night of the weekend he’s actually been sleeping downstairs with baby so I get a full nights sleep. I agree with Mellymop, it should be 50:50 and you need to tell him how you fell. I realised last time when I went back to work that most days it’s actually easier as u have your own routine, can eat/drink in peace and don’t have to plan your day around a teeny human!
@Imo2727 I had my first night out with friends at the weekend, Ethan is nearly 7 weeks old! And he is staying at his grandparents house in a few weeks time.
Thanks @Chkitty and @Lailalolo . I follow this breastfeeding forum on FB and some women on there talk about their first night when their babies are 6+ months old which made me feel a bit guilty, no way I'll be able to go 6 months without a good night out I've already waited 9 when pregnant 😂
Lailalolo,I spoke to health visitor and she just made me feel even worse about my self.She left and I was in tears so next visit in a few weeks will be fun.My husband is still a nightmere will be getting him to do more at the weekends when he is home during the day.Have given up with my inlaws their behavior is a joke ,I received little help during pregnancy but now Kate is here they are constantly on at us.Kate is their first grandchild but they in all the years I have known them they are so rude when they talk to me and behaviour is a joke.I have been told they don't know how to be and they don't realise they are being nasty.They are in for a shock as I have reached the end of my teether with the family.I'm just glad I can rely on my family to be there
@Imo2727 I defo could not wait til 6+ months, you deserve some time out so just do it when you feel ready. I’d say 6 weeks is very acceptable ha.
@Townie Could you not see your doctor instead? Saying that I told the doctor I had low mood after my first and he just said I was tired, so I know exactly how u feel.
How do you all feel about your other halfs still carrying on as normal? Me and hubby have had a major argument tonight...I feel that nothing much has changed for him, he’s going out running 3-4 times a week after work, he was going to football on a Friday night til 8pm (right on other sons bedtime) and then went to the cinema at 8.30pm the other night so I had to do 11pm feed then also get up at 5am (I usually go to bed at 9-9.30) he said I don’t ask to do anything so what’s my problem because he wouldn’t stop me anything, yet I went to the shops for 45 mins today and got 2 phone calls from him! Also what started the argument was that I put my other son to bed, had a shower and was looking forward to a cuppa and chill out, Ethan was unsettled and hubby was feeding him, he said he wanted me to take him so he could go for a run. Apparently I’m unreasonable and he doesn’t know anyone else who’s wife stops them doing things, yet he doesn’t know anyone else who’s just had a baby and also he’s a 5 year old!
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Hi ladies! Sorry I haven’t posted in sooo long, I honestly was so busy towards the end of my pregnancy with work and finalising things etc that I didn’t get a minute! My little addition arrived on 22nd April weighing 8lbs 9oz after being induced at 38+5 due to reduced movements. 40 hours of labour and an emergency csection later and little Albie arrived ☺️ Would definitely consider a planned csection next time I think, recovery has been great I drove my car 2 and a half weeks later as I felt fine to do an emergency stop etc.
All your babies are gorgeous, hope everyone is doing well and hopefully I’ll catch up with you soon xx
Aw Brookes, Albie is so cute, I love that name! I wanted it for my son but my partner didn’t 😞. I had a planned c section this time and it was so much better than 18+ hours and a forcep delivery with my first! The recovery so much better too.
Is anyone managing to get more than 4 hours between feeds during the night? Ethan usually has a feed about 6pm, is asleep by 7-8 then goes til 11-12 but then I’m even struggling to get 4 hours out of him after that. I’m usually up between 2-3am then again 6-7am. He sometimes goes back to sleep after his morning feed but I’m up with my older son by then 🙄.
Congratulations Brooke’s - I also had Albie in my list of names! But my partner wasn’t keen 🙄 it’s a lovely name and so suits him 🥰
I had an emergency section, I’ve recovered well - it’ll be 6 weeks since my op this Tuesday! I’ve managed to get back to my starting weight before baby and in my size 6 clothes which is great. Though I have a “pouch” from my section, and concerned it’ll not ever go away? Has anyone else got a pouch from their section? 😥
Hudson is awake a lot through the day - and goes to bed at 11pm down for 3 hours, wakes for a feed and back down for another 3/4 hours every night! So I can’t complain about the lack of naps through the day - though it does mean I get NOTHING done around the house 😥
He is definitely in a routine and has had the same routine since he was brought home!! 🏠
Anyone else’s baby growing incredibly fast? Hudson was 7.4lbs at birth, and weighed 10.4lbs at 5 weeks 😥😂
He loves his grub! And is now in 0-3 months - he has went through newborn, first size and now in 0-3?! And he is 6 weeks on Tuesday!!!
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I have a 3cm tear in my stomach muscle - need physio on my tummy in a couple of weeks, and wearing an elastic support band. I’m also hoping it heals!
I also still have a jelly belly, and hoping the “pouch” im left with after my section disappears.
Though I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight now!
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Baby Marina was born in May in the end, but I hope is ok with you if I keep posting here!
Labor was long but a beautiful experience.
I feel I recovered very well and we are loving our family life.
We are not sleeping too bad for now and the only difficult thing for me is cluster feeding and colic.... Breastfeeding is beautiful but really hard and I worry I will struggle when my husband is back to work.
Physically all is well. Stitches feeling much better and my tummy, even though Is jelly like and separated, is going back to normal slowly.
He may work - but I’m a firm believer in the modern take on parenthood that looking after the baby should be 50:50 these days.
He may go out and bring in the money, but you are bringing up and nurturing a baby which is a FULL TIME JOB! The jobs should be shared the best they can.
My partner works full time, I’m up more through the night as I’m breastfeeding. However, I wake him up to change baby after being fed and winded. It’s his job to change baby and sometimes settle him back to sleep.
Also he takes baby from 6am-8am weekdays to play and read to him before work for “bonding time” and whilst I sleep.
Your husband needs to realise just how you are feeling, and how this is affecting you and your family unit. It would be worth sitting down with him and having serious words, I’m sure he would hate to know just how much it’s all affecting you and HIS little family. Chin up misses - like I said, you are doing the most amazing job! And we are all here for you.
Now go get your much deserved rest!
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Hubbys been good, he does the night nappies and burping if I ask him to. I've got a really fast let down so do struggle with the burping and it's needed after every feed. When he goes back to work he'll stop doing the night time help as he needs to have energy for work. It'll be more of a struggle for me but I'm not working so think it's okay - will be expecting his help on the weekend though!
Someone mentioned money a while back, was it Mellymop? Have you opened up a savings account for your baby? I did it last week - so any money gifted went straight in there! Means it doesn't get spent elsewhere.
How are those who are breastfeeding finding it? I'm finding the feeding okay but it's quite a challenge when I'm out and about because of this let down. My milk ends up spraying everywhere, last night we went to boxpark for dinner and I had to sit with a wet patch on one nipple as he kept coming on and off during the feed soaking both of us!!
Also, I know it's early days but has anyone planned any time apart from the baby? It's my friends birthday on the 7th when he'll be 6 weeks, and also some other drinks as well so I've set that as my first night out (as long as he can take a bottle from hubby). It does feel early but hopefully it'll all go okay!!
Here's my little angel 😊
Imo it’s my first wedding anniversary this Friday and we’re going back to the place we got engaged for three nights without Callie. Right now I’m looking forward to it just so I can sleep but on other hand I don’t want to be apart but it’s needed I need a break!
I’m breastfeeding in the day and formula feed at night, if we go out I’ll take formula or bottled breast milk she’s been fine going from bottle to breast and also uses a dummy!
@Imo2727 I had my first night out with friends at the weekend, Ethan is nearly 7 weeks old! And he is staying at his grandparents house in a few weeks time.
Here’s my 2 boys 💙
@Townie Could you not see your doctor instead? Saying that I told the doctor I had low mood after my first and he just said I was tired, so I know exactly how u feel.
How do you all feel about your other halfs still carrying on as normal? Me and hubby have had a major argument tonight...I feel that nothing much has changed for him, he’s going out running 3-4 times a week after work, he was going to football on a Friday night til 8pm (right on other sons bedtime) and then went to the cinema at 8.30pm the other night so I had to do 11pm feed then also get up at 5am (I usually go to bed at 9-9.30) he said I don’t ask to do anything so what’s my problem because he wouldn’t stop me anything, yet I went to the shops for 45 mins today and got 2 phone calls from him! Also what started the argument was that I put my other son to bed, had a shower and was looking forward to a cuppa and chill out, Ethan was unsettled and hubby was feeding him, he said he wanted me to take him so he could go for a run. Apparently I’m unreasonable and he doesn’t know anyone else who’s wife stops them doing things, yet he doesn’t know anyone else who’s just had a baby and also he’s a 5 year old!
Hi ladies! Sorry I haven’t posted in sooo long, I honestly was so busy towards the end of my pregnancy with work and finalising things etc that I didn’t get a
minute! My little addition arrived on 22nd April weighing 8lbs 9oz after being induced at 38+5 due to reduced movements. 40 hours of labour and an emergency csection later and little Albie arrived ☺️ Would definitely consider a planned csection next time I think, recovery has been great I drove my car 2 and a half weeks later as I felt fine to do an emergency stop etc.
All your babies are gorgeous, hope everyone is doing well and hopefully I’ll catch up with you soon xx
Is anyone managing to get more than 4 hours between feeds during the night? Ethan usually has a feed about 6pm, is asleep by 7-8 then goes til 11-12 but then I’m even struggling to get 4 hours out of him after that. I’m usually up between 2-3am then again 6-7am. He sometimes goes back to sleep after his morning feed but I’m up with my older son by then 🙄.