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please help as i dont know what to do
hey i just recently turned 19, and have a 4 month old boy, brooklyn. i am not with the father, but we had an arrangemnt that he wud go in one day at the weekends and his daddy wud come ou to visit durin the week, that was goin well e went in on a sat and his daddy wud have came out to my house about 3 times a week to see brooklyn, that was all goin well until his mother wanted him to stop comin out to my house but bring brooklyn in every night, between me and his daddy we came to an arrangment that he wud go in on a wednesday nyt as well from 7-10, his mother didn agree with this as she wanted more time and rang me givin off sayin she should have the child half of the week and i should have him the other half, i went mad at hern told her no way on this earth!! but since then my childs father has ended up on drugs as i have recently found out (i didn know before hand) drives the car when he is high me and my friend where in the car one night and e started smokin dope in the car while driving!! he is on class a drugs as well, i try to meet him half way with things but e just does not play ball at all n its either his way or no way but e has also been bringin the child home late and not comin out for him at all, i have concerns as e cud end up drivin n smokin dope gettin high n cashin the car with my we boy in the car n killing him etc...i told him e is not goin back in until e sorts himself out, but him n his family are more than welcome to come out here! am i right in sayin this or wat are your thoughts?
leah n brooklyn xx
leah n brooklyn xx
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Stick to your guns. xxx
Also has he told you hes on drugs?? Can you actually prove it?? If you can then get a lawyer (because you are a single parent you will get legal aid). Mine told me if drugs are involved then contact must always be supervised.
Also grandparents do have rights- my sons granny took me too court and got 2 hours a week. But maybe out of court you could arrange something with her such as her coming to pick your boy up and bringing him back or one week visiting him at your house and the next you take him to her house. As a granny the average a court would allow her would be 2-6 hours a week.
The more accomadating you are the better it will look if you do have to go to court but even if you can't prove the drug thing if you know hes taking drugs I would not let my kid out the door with him.
I hope your situation improves beacuse I know too well that you have enough on your plate as a young single parent without him and his family creating problems for you
All the best xx
I would definately get some professional advice - I know it sounds like a lot of hassle but you have to put Brooklyn first and that way you can back up what you want with a lawyer/social worker or whatever!
It's a shame that his mum's being a pain as well, can you let her come and see you or have supervised contact as a compromise?
Hope you get something sorted!
a baby at 4 months old needs their mother 90% of the time, so i would tell your ex mil to f@@k off. say if she wants to see brooklyn she knows where he is.
or go and see a solicitor and arrange supervised visits, which is usually a couple of hours at your local centre.
its worth looking into.
c xxxxxxxxxxxx