How big a gap??
Jun 4, 2010 5:47PM
I know everyone is different, but was just wondering how big an age gap is best?
Pros and cons please. Thanks ladies xxx
Jun 4, 2010 4:43PM
I seem to be replying to all the posts tonight! Baby in bed and husband out!
I only have one child but have lots of friends with completely varied gaps between theirs.
What I have noticed is that there doesn't seem to be a perfect age gap, it seems to be the children's personality that makes the difference.
You can get two girls with a small age gap that get on brilliantly cos of their nature etc, two others with the same gap who seem to do nothing but argue!
I guess some of it is down to how the parents handle it but a lot is just down to their nature/personality.
I guess if you are thinking in terms of going back to work or paying for two in nursery etc then there may be a 'best gap' that suits your family? I am sure others with more experience will comment. x
Jun 4, 2010 5:41PM
I agree with happysmurf that the best age gap is the one that suits ur family best.
There is 2 years between my oh & his bro. Also a 2 year gap between his bro's 2 kids. Both sets r so close & get on really well, even though we live in n. Ireland & his bro lives in london. I've only got 1 lo but want to have a 2 year gap between kids.
Me & my sister have 7 years between us & we never really got on as we went through different things at different times, e.g, when I was 7 is was babysitting me, when I was 14 & a terible teen she was out clubbing & getting drunk. Because we were never close it never felt like we were sisters, & we actually don't speak at all now.
So personally I'd go for a smaller age gap.
Jun 4, 2010 5:47PM
My DS is 15 months now, and will be around 19 months when this Beanio is due in Sept.
I think it is difficult to say the best gap as it depends on the individual families in question.
We wanted two close in age, but some parents prefer a few years between their children.
We like the idea of our two being close and playing together, and growing up as friends.
It is difficult to say what my DS will think to baby number 2, but hopefully he will be an excellent big brother and with good parenting, they will be happy kiddies! lol xx
May 12, 2019 12:04PM
hi everyone, new here but desperate for advice! My son is 1 month old on Tuesday and has been bottle feeding for the past 2 weeks. He has had problems since. He is extremely irritable, I’m sure my Son doesn’t have anytime while awake not crying, he cries ALL the time and I try EVERYTHING with no success. I have been to the hospital and doctors and they are so very unhelpful, they just tell me he has colic and basically I have to deal with it. I am almost certain, and the hospital also said, he has reflux (silent) as he rarely spits up but it is getting far worse and he is becoming more and more irritable, coughing after feeds and in between and starting to refuse feeds, scream, want them, take them and scream again. He has had Carobel from the hospital as they didn’t want to give Gaviscon due to chance of constipation, but it did absolutely nothing for him. He is now simply on infacol but has trouble pooing, which causes him distress, but is very runny. I guess i am I am desperately looking for advice on what to do, as it is increasingly hard with a baby that cries all day and won’t sleep or settle due to milk coming back up. I feel like I’m missing something and not giving him what he needs? HE IS SUCH A HUNGRY BABY! I feed him, change his nappy, cuddle him, sing to him, wind him, put him in swinger, walk round house, car - I am lost! Health visitor has done a referral to dietician however who knows how long this will take! Dad is lactose intolerant. Also, how much does your baby eat, or did eat at 1 month? Mine wants food every 1.5/2 hours! Please help!
Apr 29, 2019 9:53AM
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