don't want mil looking after lo - help!
although mil means well she does my head in!!! she's very loud, always knows best, doesn't listen to the way I want things done coz in her words 'I do know - i have been a mum 4 times myself' yes i know that but i do things differently - arrrrgggghhhhh!!!! she always makes having Charlie a competition against my mum (my mum just ignores her though!) she says things like 'i've had Charlie all day Friday' expectinga big response!!! my mum works tho she cant have charlie as much as she'd like.
Anyway im having to make decisions about childcare for when i go back to work in july. my mum is reducing her hours so will have Charlie mon & weds, im hoping to condense my hours into 4 days so i can have friday off, so that leaves tues and thurs. the thing is i really don't want mil to have Charlie. Hubby also moans about his mum from time to time but i think will be quite hurt if we don't let her have him, i just don't know how to word things with hubby, i've tried giving practical reasons why it wouldn't work, eg, would have to keep swapping carseat between two cars, the nursery is next to my place of work but the reality is i just dont want mil to have him - what can i do???
Anyway im having to make decisions about childcare for when i go back to work in july. my mum is reducing her hours so will have Charlie mon & weds, im hoping to condense my hours into 4 days so i can have friday off, so that leaves tues and thurs. the thing is i really don't want mil to have Charlie. Hubby also moans about his mum from time to time but i think will be quite hurt if we don't let her have him, i just don't know how to word things with hubby, i've tried giving practical reasons why it wouldn't work, eg, would have to keep swapping carseat between two cars, the nursery is next to my place of work but the reality is i just dont want mil to have him - what can i do???
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im lucky i get on with mil, she will be having cam all 3 days when i go back to work but its stil hard to talk to her about the way i want things doing...again she thinks cos she's raised her own kids she knows how to raise mine?!!
My mil offered to have Poppy for us when I first went back to work but hell would have to freeze over first! I much prefer that Poppy is receiving the type of care that I want her to have because I'm paying for it rather than have to settle for what someone else will give for free if that makes sense??! If someone is doing you a favour having your lo while you work then I personally think you have to be more flexible as they are doing you a favour not vice versa?!
xx
My hubby knows how I feel and he was hurt when I told him but he agrees that she is not the best person to have Lily.
Enjoy your time off and try not to think about July too much!
xxx