Is this rude?
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We r goin to mil's for christmas, but she and oh smoke lots in the house, is it really rude of me to ask them to smoke outside whilst we r there? Am jst quite concerened bout the effect it will have on lo.
Any opinions appreciated
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Any opinions appreciated
Thanks
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I used to make my mum wash her hands before touching my boys, the smoke fumes just get everywhere even when they're not smoking nearby
Thanks ladies
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Also something my health visitor pointed out was that after smoking you are still breathing out the carbon monoxide for 40 mins or so, so they shouldn't hold the baby for an hour after smoking. I stuck to this rule with my husband and banned him from holding baby or coming to bed etc for atleast an hour!!! He never smokes around the kids - always outside, but as an ex smoker I find he stinks and happily remind him of this on a daily basis LOL
When I lived at home my mum smoked and she would go into the kitchen when Lauren was around. This could work as being Xmas day they will prob be in there cooking most the time anyway.
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Would your other half be able to have a word, as it's his mother and presumably he shares your concerns?
I think if it were me I'd find it very awkward, but I'd have to have a quiet word explaining that you're unhappy about LO passive smoking so unless they're happy to smoke outside you won't be able to stay for Christmas. As long as you approach it in the right way and make an effort to avoid sounding like you're laying down the law (and assuming they're reasonable people?) then they ought to understand.
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we took him to a party once and somebody was smoking in the kitchen,they next day he had a bad cough,maybe a coincidence but i dnt think so
i'm sure they will understand if you ask politely,or ask your other half to lol,thats my easy option out lol
Passive smoking can be very harmful, you are only looking after your child so even if they think its rude who cares hun!!
Good luck xxx
Thanks every1
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If I was in ur situ I would definately say something maybe asking them not to smoke in their own house is a bit awkward but certainly not rude. Could they smoke in another room with the door shut and window open? eg - kitchen? or designate a bedroom for the evening?
I smoke, so does OH but we both go outside - even in the rain as we dont want smoke to come into contact with the kids or my washing ect. I hate it when you can smell smoke on kids clothes - its awful. I wash my hands after iv had a fag and I wear a coat to go outside in and take it off when I come in.
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I really can't abide smoking/smokers & have rarely come across a selfless one, most just care about feeding their addiction!
I am a very upfront person (if you hadn't already gathered! ) & my inlaws know that I don't mince my words - why lie to someone?!
I just don't go to peoples houses if they smoke in them - for myself as well as my LO, I had a friend who smoked outside the back door but that still made me feel sick (as the smoke blew in) so I stopped going around & would only meet at smoke free places...when she came to visit LO when newborn her buggy stank our house out when it was in the hall & she only held LO for 10 mins & I had to change his clothes when she left as he then stank of fags!
I wouldn't spend Christmas there, I don't even like Christmas at my inlaws who don't smoke as when my OH's dad & brothers are altogether, without fail, they have a farting competition & I told my OH there was no way I was sitting in their lounge with my LO & soon a newborn being engulfed in a cloud of farts - they are soooooooo common! ;\) what is it with men?!
FYI, my sister smokes & she gets shut outside & stands shivering at the lounge window with us laughing at her freezing for her habit! (she lives abroad so mainly only comes over for Christmas when the weather is always cold!) my mum makes her leave her coat in the garage as well so it doesn't stink the house out!
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Kerry, Freya and Bump
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