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Mummy vs Daddy
Hi everyone. Recently I've started to notice that my lo prefers me to his daddy. Now I'm sure you'll think this maybe normal but my lo doesn't even like sitting in a room with him. He'll follow me if I walk out the room and cry at the door. At bedtime my hubby lays with him to settle him if I'm busy but he'll sit up and stare at the door waiting for me. If my lo sees something he likes he looks around at me for reassurance or like a "mummy did you see that!" But never looks at daddy. My lo is independent at baby groups and around other family members but at times it seems it doesn't matter what daddy does, he wants me. He'll play with him a bit if I'm not there but if I am then its all me. To be honest I'm the one who feeds, changes, plays, well everything really with my lo. My hubby says he likes babies when they're a bit older because he doesn't really know what to do with them when they are little. Both of them depend on me a lot. If I decide to have a lay in and them two are up they won't have breakfast?? I know this would be up to hubby, but he says he'd rather wait till I make it. I said you might be able to wait but lo can't! So our life revolves around me keeping it going. (tiring!) But my point was do you think they'll still have a close bond when lo grows up? (apart from the obvious father son bond) and if I'm with my lo most of the day should my hubby be doing more housework??
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He likes nanny better then either of us though...lol!
I think as kids get older, they all seem to prefer their dads. Not sure why? Think it's cos they are 'funnier' as a general rule and mummies are always busy cooking and cleaning!!!! (stereotype, but certainly true in our house, and yours as well by the sounds of it!) My exs mum is a childminder & all the kids she's had (mainly toddlers/pre-schoolers) get so excited when their dads pick them up and give them a cuddle, but never bother about their mums!
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