Making strange???
Ellie is just over 4 months and has been for the last week or so making strange. She hates seeing anyone other then myself, her dad or my mum. She sees my sister and her nanny every day but cried hysterically when they try to lift or hold her. Is this normal? Im starting to feel like everyone thinks she is very spoilt but i know that she isnt. Well she does get my full attention all day and her dads at night and she just seems to only want us. I dont know what to do as we are going away next week for around 6 hours and i dont want her to be crying her heart out when we are gone.
What can i do?
What can i do?
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have you tried looking for an article on it on this site?
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Hilary x
Dont think there is anything you can about it as they will grow out of it.
Good luck.
Barnaby is 4 months and doing the same thing. He has always been fine with anyone but recently screams the place down if anyone else holds him. I have also noticed he seems a bit calmer when he can see me and at night when he wakes he's happy to know I am there and I place a hand on his chest, he grips on really hard til he falls asleep again.
Apparently babies do go through this at this age and it's perfectly normal. You might find that in a few weeks Ellie is fine again.
Until then I would suggest that when you hand her to anyone tell her ' you're going to have a cuddle with X now', show her who you mean, and when you pass her over make sure you do it as she is facing you so she can still see you as opposed to passing her over facing the person who is taking her. When she goes to that person make sure you are still there close to her and talk to her lots and it might just work. I'm sure she'll grow out of it.
My Lo is 9 months now but she went through exactly the same stage at around 5 months. To be honest i found the only way to overcome it was to act as you normally would and she sorted herself out. I found the more i reacted to it the worse she got, i would be pulling my hair out as i couldnt even leave the room. It was testing but separation anxiety is something all babies go through at some stage so dont feel that anything is wrong. If you can be strong and just leave lo to sort herself out then do so. My lo was like it for a few weeks but then one day just stopped, whether it was because myself and my oh werent reacting to her and eventually her determination gave in before ours did. It was hard though but worked for me and i havent had a problem since x
Tracieann thanks for your idea about handing her over, i will try that tomarrow. x
I had the same with my LO from quite a young age. I just wanted to say that if you try trackieann's advice and still find she gets upset, to leave it for a few weeks rather than forcing the issue. We found that worked for LO, as Hilary said when we went visiting we didn't hand her over straight away, but gave her a chance to suss people out first. We even had to do that with all the grandparents for a few weeks! But it worked, and now I could give her to anyone, although I catch her checking for me over their shoulders! It will definitely pass though, it's just a pity it kicks in even worse when they get a bit older!