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What does everyone think about dummies and older children?
Hi all
I was on the bus this afternoon and a woman got on with her two children. One was about two years old and had a dummy in her mouth. The other was at least 4, if not 5 (I think he'd just been picked up from school), and also had a dummy in his mouth.
I don't think I've ever seen a child of that age with a dummy and was wondering what people think about it? He had a mouth full of teeth and was holding it in with them while talking to his mum, so I was wondering what the point of it was?
My gut reaction was a bit shocked (I didn't react but others on the bus quite rudely shook their heads or tut tutted etc which I thought was outrageous!), but then I wondered whether there might be a perfectly good reason for it, or perhaps she has tried to get rid of it without success. This last thought frightened me a bit as I use a dummy with my LO but he is only 10 weeks so I'm hoping I have plenty of time to phase it out!
I hope I haven't offended anyone who is using a dummy with older children - that's not my intention at all, I was just curious as I haven't come across it before.
So what do people think? When should we start phasing it out - or do you think kids should keep them as long as they want them?
C
I was on the bus this afternoon and a woman got on with her two children. One was about two years old and had a dummy in her mouth. The other was at least 4, if not 5 (I think he'd just been picked up from school), and also had a dummy in his mouth.
I don't think I've ever seen a child of that age with a dummy and was wondering what people think about it? He had a mouth full of teeth and was holding it in with them while talking to his mum, so I was wondering what the point of it was?
My gut reaction was a bit shocked (I didn't react but others on the bus quite rudely shook their heads or tut tutted etc which I thought was outrageous!), but then I wondered whether there might be a perfectly good reason for it, or perhaps she has tried to get rid of it without success. This last thought frightened me a bit as I use a dummy with my LO but he is only 10 weeks so I'm hoping I have plenty of time to phase it out!
I hope I haven't offended anyone who is using a dummy with older children - that's not my intention at all, I was just curious as I haven't come across it before.
So what do people think? When should we start phasing it out - or do you think kids should keep them as long as they want them?
C
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I had my dummy till i started school and had goofy teeth so i dont think they should have them for as long as they want.
My dd was weaned off her dummy during the day at 1 year i.e. casual use.. so she just has it strictly for naps, bedtime or if not very well! Shes 17 months old now and i have no intention of taking it off her just yet.. she only has it for sleeping and it falls out when she falls into a deep sleep anyway so its doing no harm
I think its a very personal choice but i wouldnt dream of letting my dd walk around with one in public at this age never mind 5.
Dont worry about your little one having a dummy.. there such a good comfort. Im 24 weeks pregnant and intend on giving this one a dummy too xx
I never had a dummy so I dont know what it would have been like. I think at the age of 2 yeah thats not too bad but at the age of 4 or 5 then no, thats a little too old.
My fil told me he seen a girl pushing a pram yesterday and the child that was supposed to be in it was running along side and he said she was roughly 7 or 8 and wearing a school uniform, I know thats a little o/t but again a little too old.
Ive a friend whos wee girl is 4 this week and she still has one but i can hear the difference in her speach compared to my 4 year old and she has had constant ear/runny nose probs due to her dummy
Its great for an easy life but not good for the child to have it too long
Gemm x
Off topic but you reminded me, I saw a toddler on a bus drinking a bottle of blue powerade recently, I could barely hide my shock!!
XX
thats my only reservation about dummies, but think as others have said they are okay if your little one needs soothing at nap times etc...
I also saw someone with blue powerade for her child about a month ago. And when I was at Greggs the other day I asked for a pasty and a sausage roll as I was absolutely starving and was asked if the sausage roll for for my LO!!! She was 6 months old at the time!!
Personally I don't mind seeing children with dummies in the day at 2 but once they are 3 they should be JUST for bed time in my opinion and should definitely be LONG GONE by age 4
We're planning on getting rid of my ds' dummy next christmas when he'll be 2 1/2. He'll understand then he's a big boy and doesnt need dummies.
To be honest, I think I could wean him off them now with minimal problems as sometimes if I cant find one he goes without & he doesnt mind, but I guess I'm keeping him a baby for now
LO has a dummy but only for settling for naps and bedtime, we dont plug it in at that time but offer it if hes unsettled he usually has a few sucks settles then spits it out
my friend is due next week and we were talking about this, her hubby doesnt want to use dummies purely for this reason, our main reason for using them at the start was because of the evidence regarding cot death and how they can reduce the risk,
becca and jacob
10 weeks, 1 day
Dummies are fine for soothing babies but I think like everything they should be used in moderation. Don't mean to offend, just offering my opinion xx
I personally would rather have her suck on a dummy than her thumb as you can't exactly take those away!!
xx
Ahhhhh, It's a comfort to them no matter what there age weather there 6 months or 6 years old. Me and the misses have two very young LO's and they love there dummy's along with there bottles. We have two friends, a wife and hubby and i remember (a long while ago now), when i use to go round and visit them and they allowed there son who was 7 years old at the time to have his dummy in the evenings and at bedtime. I did not think badly of there son or them as parents to let him keep his dummy and i noticed that he really did love his and talked to me with it in his mouth his pet name for it was 'Bone' like a dog's, I think it was sweet. On the same topic, my mum let me have my dummy for bedtime (not in the day), until I was at least 11 nearly 12 years old, (this IS true i'm not lying if your all wondering here ladies). I can tell you all, that it did not effect my speech now in older life but i do have a cross bite as my two front teeth are pushed forward slightly due to my dummy use in the 80's and I have very fond memories of my dummy. I did even at that old age really enjoy sucking on my dummy it did comfort me at night while in bed.
Ha ha I too had a dummy at night till about 10/11 LOL. hasn't done me any harm but I don't like seeing older kids with them. I started to take my lo's dummy off her at about 8 weeks and only used it when absolutely necessary. By the time she started play school at 2 she wasn't bothered about having one at day ior night. Glad I'm not the only one who had a dummy for ages lol
I don't think think older children having dummies is particularly good for their speech and language development. Firstly, children will be less inclined to talk with a dummy in their mouth and so don't practise speaking etc and talking with a dummy in can lead to wonky teeth and incorrect speech sounds.
I taught a boy last year who got rid of his dummy at age 4, and he couldn't pronounce any of the front mouth sounds such as 't' and 'd'. All his speech sounds came from the back of his mouth as his tongue was towards the back of his mouth. It's taking a lot of practise with speech therapy work to correct it.
He called his dummy, his 'gummy!'