Sleeping problems - help!
Hi just wondering if anyone has any bright ideas to solve our sleeping problems! My little boy was a good sleeper - going through the night from about 10 weeks. At around 18 weeks he started waking up for a feed in the middle of the night but this coincided with him teething and us having to stay with my in laws for a couple of weeks. I started weaning him at 23 weeks because he was still waking regularly and I thought he must just be hungry. Things have really not improved and are probably getting worse! So at the moment he goes to sleep OK - usually asleep by 730-8pm, but is waking like clockwork at around 11pm for another feed (despite having loads of solids at 5pmish and milk before he goes to bed), and then wakes again around 4am. On top of this we have had a run of nights where he wakes between these times, cries and cries, stops immediately as soon as I pick him up and falls asleep on my shoulder within seconds, but as soon as I put him back in his cot - in fact as soone as he's horizontal(!) he wakes up and starts crying again. Its this last behaviour which I'm really struggling with - he's not obviously hungry, doesn't settle with calpol or teething gel. Friends think its a habit and we have tried leaving him to cry but he just starts sobbing and gets completely hysterical! Its very tiring and he's also tired the next day which is affecting him feeding. I have been dropping breast feeds over the last few weeks so he now has a bottle in the afternoon and if he wakes overnight so have wndered if he's not geting enough breast milk before bed - perhaps supply has dropped off? - but even if he takes a full bottle of 7oz overnight he still doesn't sleep more than a few hours. Sorry long post but any advice would be great x
could it be that he doesnt like laying flat or that hes getting too much food and has tummy ache at night? has he done anything new? at around 4 months babies can start to wake when previously sleeping through due to all the things they are learning,
Mine would also stop crying straight away if I picked her up and then cry again as soon as I put her down. What I started to do was first give her a chance to re-settle herself, if she doesn't then I do shh/pat for a while and not pick her up at all, and most of the time this works but it can take a while. She is 8 months tomorrow and still wakes sometimes, she eats well during the day so I don't feed her if she wakes up anymore as I don't think she needs it, she has a cold at the moment though and I also think she may be teething so she has been a bit more unsettled the last few nights but a dose of calpol and some shh/patting has still worked.
hope some of that helps
[Modified by: dollywotsit on September 19, 2010 09:47 PM]
"In the end I sat with him and let him cry"
He definately knew i was going in to pick him up and used to hear me coming up the stairs and listen for the door to open!!!
He is a happy beautiful funny and very cheeky little boy
Life has dictated that i have spent most of maternity leave getting toby ready for when i go back to work. We chose to own our own house, we choose to give toby strong working morals - i cant pick him up every 2 hours when i have to work 50 hours a week to keep the roof over his head.
Ignore non supportive comments - not helpful on a support forum grrrrr
hun I completly understand, my lo was a great sleeper, slept through at 8 weeks and she was like this until 6 months and since then she hasnt slept a night through, she is 11 months this week and she wakes up to 8 times a night, we have tried cc, pupd the suggestions of the HV and in the end is now arranging to have a woman come out and do an intense sleep program, it will take a few weeks but I am willing to try anything now.
Ignore unhelpful comments because if someone hasnt been through it they dont know what it's like xxx
[Modified by: febmummy on September 20, 2010 04:43 PM]
Hope the sleep pattern continues x
Well done on your lo sleeping longer! I had to do something similar to my dd last week and she now sleeps 7pm-8am most nights It is hard but it is better in the long run that your lo (and you) is getting a good nights sleep. I think it is more acceptable to do a form of cc at the age our lo's are than a very tiny baby as you have a better idea of why they are crying and can distinguish between distressed crying and whinging.
Hope it continues to get better and your lo sleeps longer tonight!