yeah we could prob get a maller house too but it would be in a rough area which i dont want for my kids, if you seen the news recently a man was shot in the face in the middle of the day in a typical area of this nature so id rather work and give my kids a better start plus me and oh are a mixed relationship which narrows down our housing opportunities in ni as they are mostly 'one or the other' mixed areas are dearer - also although i work 30 hrs per week i get to do 6 at home formarking etc so my kids see plenty of me still doesn't change the fact that i would love not to work and be at home all the time with them
Just read this and can't believe someone actually said this to you... you are not a bad or selfish mummy! Ask anyone who sends their child to nursery and they will tell you that they absolutely love it because they get to socialise with other children, have loads of messy play, outside play areas etc that they just can't access at home! Also you will make the most of every minute you have with your baby. Being a SAHM doesn't automatically qualify people to be good mothers... I hear of SAHMs who ship babies off to nurseries during the day or before and after school clubs etc!
This person obviously is one of those that thinks their way is the only way and doesn't understand that you can work and be a good mother... think how much most kids love their dads... My lo is only 4 months (less actually) and daddy goes out to work every day but gets all the best smiles and laughs when he gets home!
Surely this person cannot think it selfish for you to want a baby? A mortgage and bills will always be there...and try as you will, there will always be something that needs doing to the house! So there will always be a need to work such long weeks, so what are you supposed to do? Never have children? Just because you want to live in your own home?
Thats the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Please ignore this stupid person, you are far from selfish. You may work long hours but i'm sure the hours you are with him make up for the hours you are away!
I hope you come to realise with all the support from these ladies that having a baby is the least selfish thing you can ever do. x
just wanted to second what everyone else has said. No you are not selfish, many mothers work and their children are in no way harmed by this. Besides I would love to understand how working your butt off instead of being at home spending all day kissing your babies cute chubby cheeks is selfish. I'm not saying staying at home is selfish, just what mum wouldn't love to spend all day with their lo, and many have to work, and work is just that work. So please please take care of you, you are going to be exhausted, so make sure you ignore stupid people who say things like that and take care of you, so you can be your best mummy self for your lo.
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This person obviously is one of those that thinks their way is the only way and doesn't understand that you can work and be a good mother... think how much most kids love their dads... My lo is only 4 months (less actually) and daddy goes out to work every day but gets all the best smiles and laughs when he gets home!
A mortgage and bills will always be there...and try as you will, there will always be something that needs doing to the house! So there will always be a need to work such long weeks, so what are you supposed to do? Never have children? Just because you want to live in your own home?
Thats the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Please ignore this stupid person, you are far from selfish. You may work long hours but i'm sure the hours you are with him make up for the hours you are away!
I hope you come to realise with all the support from these ladies that having a baby is the least selfish thing you can ever do. x
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