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i can't stop worrying about him.
Sam has a speech assessment on Wednesday which my health visitor made. She said its because he's a quiet wee boy. He's 13 months old and I thought he was just a happy content, quiet little boy. He makes 'baby' noises and a month ago or so he learnt to say "dada" but he has stopped saying it now. I am getting really worried about him, what if there is something wrong with his speech? I have also noticed he stares into space when we are out in the buggy, Its like hes transfixed on something, is this normal for when out in the buggy? Other than that he is perfectly happy and content. I can't help worrying (as we do) and feel it's my fault he isn't talking more - I am getting over pnd and have never really chatted to him alot I suspect this is somehow down to the pnd and Im am feeling so guilty. He also has the mmr jag and 3rd pneumo jag on Wednesday too and I have been crying in bed tonight because I don't want to put him through the initial pain or have him unwell afterwards. He has been through enough...We have had to move to the middle of no where until January and we dont get out much and I feel so sorry for him and incredibly guilty we cant do more. We have no transport and the nearest bus stop is a good hours walk away. I have let him down enough without putting him through the jags but I know he needs them. I feel like this speech thing is all my fault and now with the jags on top of it Im a guilty wreck and I keep getting these pangs of guilt and utter love and I dont know how to make things better for him. He deserves so much better.
Im sorry if none of that made sense, its 2am and Ive been crying for a couple of hours in bed and I just needed to get it off my chest xx
Im sorry if none of that made sense, its 2am and Ive been crying for a couple of hours in bed and I just needed to get it off my chest xx
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i know what you mean bout jabs i had caitlin my youngest 5 months 3rd set of jabs n she was so poorly she went to hospital n i felt awful but as you said they do need them, maybe you could ask doc to put them off until you feel he will be able to cope n you will.
sending big hugs n i hope today you feel a little better x take care x
Tracey n kids x
All i was told to do was talk to him about anything and everything, tell them what every little thing is as you walk past it or look at it. read to them as much as you can, and when they point at things asking for them tell them what it is they want a few times.
Health visitors tend to send the little ones for these assesments just to be on the safe side, and also because it can take months for apointments to come through so its better to start looking into it early as if there is a problem you dont want to have to weight .
Don't be upset. My nephew didn't say his first proper word until he was 3 years old. He had a statement of educational needs at school and was provided with a speech therapist 3 times a week until he was 10. They never did really figure out why he had problems speaking as he has above average intellegence, they said it was like a form of verbal dyslexia. He is now 13 and doing really well in school. He still stumbles a little bit over his words especially when excited but it hasn't really effected him overwise. I'm sure Sam is fine, if he is anything like my nephew you won't be able to shut him up once he gets going!
Please don't blame yourself though - we used to talk to my nephew all the time and it didn't make any difference, I think it's just one of those things. All the best with the assessment.
Steph
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