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post natal depression
ok - i am 18 weeks pregnant with my third child.
after the birth of my 2nd child i developed post natal depression. i was put on tablets by the doctor after being referred by my health visitor.
The tablets helped but when my partner found out he went mad that i was taking tablets for depression and told me i didnt need them.
Hr would say things like stop being so moody and snap out of it, cheer up or im not coming home from work. he was totally unsupportive and made me feel like i was doing it on purpose. It caused alot of arguments between us and seriously threatened our relationship. His parents even told me it was ridiculous i had been given depression tablets because there was no way i was depressed.
I explained all this to my doctor who was really sympathetic and printed me aload of info out to give my partner to read through (which he didnt)
she even suggested my partner come down to the surgery with me so she could explain to him but he refused. I even went out and bought him a book on postnatal depression to read which he never even picked up.
I tried to explain to him that i understand it is difficult for him and that it wasnt my fault but he wasnt having none of it.
I eventually got over it but as i am pregnant again i am really worried about getting it again after i give birth to this baby. The last time i never felt so isolated in my life. My partner and i usually have a good relationship and im worried it will be threatened again.
Has this ever happened to anyone else? How did you cope?
after the birth of my 2nd child i developed post natal depression. i was put on tablets by the doctor after being referred by my health visitor.
The tablets helped but when my partner found out he went mad that i was taking tablets for depression and told me i didnt need them.
Hr would say things like stop being so moody and snap out of it, cheer up or im not coming home from work. he was totally unsupportive and made me feel like i was doing it on purpose. It caused alot of arguments between us and seriously threatened our relationship. His parents even told me it was ridiculous i had been given depression tablets because there was no way i was depressed.
I explained all this to my doctor who was really sympathetic and printed me aload of info out to give my partner to read through (which he didnt)
she even suggested my partner come down to the surgery with me so she could explain to him but he refused. I even went out and bought him a book on postnatal depression to read which he never even picked up.
I tried to explain to him that i understand it is difficult for him and that it wasnt my fault but he wasnt having none of it.
I eventually got over it but as i am pregnant again i am really worried about getting it again after i give birth to this baby. The last time i never felt so isolated in my life. My partner and i usually have a good relationship and im worried it will be threatened again.
Has this ever happened to anyone else? How did you cope?
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shell, i know exactly how you feel with that too!! Im always getting moaned at about the house not being tidy enough, the dinners not as home cooked as they used to be! My OH is very unsympathetic, he even moans when im ill, i have had alot of sickness with this pregnancy and alot of bad headaches (tension headaches caused by STRESS!!) I have 2 toddlers and some days its an effort just to get out of bed to care for them! You say you feel like an incubator for his baby, i feel like that alot, no amount of trying to explain seems to work. I think the government should send all dads to be to classes to learn how to be supportive to their pregnant partners! I dont think men can ever really understand how difficult it is to be pregnant, especially when you have other childeren to take care of. Women are beyond doubt the stronger sex, if men had babies instead of women the world would be severly under populated!
I hope every thing gets better for you hun,
Toni xx