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almost gave up last night
wow this is really, really hard! Have struggled since lo was born a week and a half ago to get a latch and then to get a good latch. He's not sleeping well at night and I'm exhausted. I've now had mastitis twice anyone got any tips to get me through? he just seems to cry all the time when awake and I'm beginning to feel that my determination to keep breast feeding is ruining his first few weeks of life
We had a super midwife today who really helped and I'm carrying on for now but the tiredness is so overcoming!
We had a super midwife today who really helped and I'm carrying on for now but the tiredness is so overcoming!
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We also suffered with a bad latch and after a couple of weeks I had to grit my teeth at the start of every feed, then each feed would be an hour - every other hour! But, lo is now nearly 10 months and she is still BF. It really does get easier I promise.
In terms of the latch, practice will make perfect and use lots of lansinoh in the meantime! Always do tummy to tummy, nose to nipple, and I found it helped to pull back on the skin above my nipple so it was pointing at roof of babys mouth as she latched on.
The night times can be so hard when its only you that can do the feeds -I used to go to sleep on the sofa for an hour in the evening while dh held her between feeds which helped a bit. And I did let her sleep with me quite a lot in the first month. We had a snugglenest which can be used in your bed, then we put that in her crib too and she slept much better. Also do you swaddle? my baby liked to be swaddled pretty much all the time! I used a muslin swaddler so she didn't get too hot.
If its important to you to breastfeed, try and give it another couple of weeks. You are not ruining his life, you are giving him the best start and when you are over the hard part each feed will be relaxing and enjoyable for you both.
Good luck
Now my lo is 14 weeks, feeds every 4 hours during the day, and sleeps from 8.30pm-7am at night without wanting a feed. He will amuse himself for a while so I can get on with stuff, and life is so much easier.
I guess what I'm trying to say is it WILL get easier given time. Right now your lo is getting over being born, has a teeny stomach so needs frequent small meals, and, while you've read all the books on bf, he hasn't so its so new to him. Peony gives great advice on how to get a good latch. I used to dread feeds for the first few days, now I live for feeds!
Give yourself a little more time. You're doing a good job xx
Was in due in June but Poppy came early!
I too wish people had told me how hard breastfeeding
is.. There is soo much pressure on you ad a mummy
during a very emotional time at the begining!
Not only have u got to get your latch right..you've also
got the tiredness to deal with, the fact that u are
their only feeder and that the HV continue to tell
u "to eat well and sleep lots" which is impossible
with a newborn!
Trust me I've been at exsactly the same stage as u
and what u will find is when LO is going through
a growth spurt you will end up feeding every hour
or so.. Which tortures your nipples and gets you very
tired and down... But this only last 2days or so then it
will go back to normal!
During the growth spurts is my worst time... And
I even went out and brought formula... When I
was at my wits end! But if you are really determind
to BF...keep going as just as u get to that "I can't
do this anymore"feeling, LO turns a corner and u
have a great day feeding.
Poppys 5weeks now... And although I'm still
struggling with sore nipples etc is definatly is
getting better... Tomo maybe another bad day..
But then the next maybe better!
Take each day as it comes honey!
I'm always here to chat! X
and was getting stressed about it.. So we went to a
breastfeeding drop-in place at my hospital and they watched
me feed her..weighed her etc and said that everything
was fine..even though I'd convinced myself that I was
doing it wrong!
Sometimes you just need someone,who knows
what they are talking about to watch and tell you that
you are doing it fine!
I'm sure there will be one near you?? Maybe at the
place u get baby weighed or Surestart place?
I would go along...just for advice and reassurance
really.. I had the latch right..but picked up some tips
on holding her during breastfeeding which really helped!
u that you're doing it right
It does get easier my lo is 12 weeks and sleeps from 11 to 7 feeds are all over the place during the day but its pain free and enjoyable!! Its so easy to go out and about just baby in car seat and go. I started expressing at about 3 weeks after every feed to increase my supply and now i express first thing so lo can have bottle of ebm at night while i have a bath tidy etc.
I cant really offer any advice about latch as i never had any problems apart from 1 sore nipple in the first week .
Take one day at a time im so glad im bfing now as lo is teething and i have something that always soothes him i would hate to be bottlefeeding at the minute we took him to a party the other night and gave him a bottle and he wouldnt settle i had to bf him that showed the family members who love to tell me bf babies dont settle!!!
One more thing I will say is just relax and go with it - your baby knows what he needs. You will probably be trapped on the sofa most of the day for a while so just watch some rubbish telly and enjoy the snuggles - I wish I had as I can't even catch my baby most of the time now let alone get a cuddle!
Also I found even napping for half an hour between feeds during the day really helped me feel less tired at night .
How are you feeling now jellytots?
Lo slept better last night,as did daddy and I, so I'm in a better frame of mind. My nipples are killing me but we are getting there I think. Was nervous that he wasn't getting enough milk but he is not up to 6lb 14 from his birthweight of 6lb11 so its just getting my boobs clear of the mastitis and the agony of my nipples, and hopefully we'll get there. Like you say lou, its been one feed at a time. I'm glad we've kept going as he is obviously being well fed thank goodness! Good luck to all and well done to anyone that breastfeeds - its a hard job! xx
Cold tea bags in my bra brought some relief to my nipples (got this tip out of my pregnancy book) and cold savoy cabbage leaves helped when I had engorged boobs too (i froze mine and just put it on for half an hour between feeds), but my goodness the cabbage stinks after half an hour down ya bra LOL