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cant believe some people
zac is now 10 weeks old and have fed him a few times sat in a cafe hidden away in the corner or in the breastfeeding room in our local market but today we had just come out of the town and zca decided he was hungry we were near church that had benches outside felt i had to ask vicar if it was ok for me to sit there and feed zac and he was more then happy for me to
it was on a busy main road so lots of traffic men didnt bat an eye lid apart from the odd few who just smiled but what surprised me was womens attitude most didnt care but i had a few that tutted, shook there heads at me and one who said it was disgusting to do it in public especially with my children around
couldnt get over it fair enough if i was sat there letting everything hang out but you couldnt see anything apart from when zac lifted my top up when he was feeding as fire engine drove past and all i got from that was shouts of good on you love
i expected more bad response from men not women but how wrong i was
lost my temeper after a while told the woman who sed i was digusting that she was more disgusting as she was perving on my boobs she soon shut up and rushed away
it was on a busy main road so lots of traffic men didnt bat an eye lid apart from the odd few who just smiled but what surprised me was womens attitude most didnt care but i had a few that tutted, shook there heads at me and one who said it was disgusting to do it in public especially with my children around
couldnt get over it fair enough if i was sat there letting everything hang out but you couldnt see anything apart from when zac lifted my top up when he was feeding as fire engine drove past and all i got from that was shouts of good on you love
i expected more bad response from men not women but how wrong i was
lost my temeper after a while told the woman who sed i was digusting that she was more disgusting as she was perving on my boobs she soon shut up and rushed away
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it does make me feel a bit wary about feeding zac in public now as zac has started to hold my top up whilst feeding if i dont do that he claws at my boob to the point where i bleed either that or has afew sucks pulls his head back and just laughs and keeps doing it repeadley with milk spraying everywhere :roll:
my local wetherspoons does not welcome breastfeeding mums. I hav fed in there but obviously went unnoticed. As a peer supporter I hear all sorts of peoples experiences, a number of them hav been asked to leave as it is a "family environment" however they hav easy access to the sun newspaper and the daily sport both of which show practically naked women! How is that acceptable for a "family environment" but feeding a baby not. Grr makes my blood boil!! Right I'll get off my soap box now.....
Just another note on the "family friendly" establishments, a friend of mine was asked to stop feeding her daughter in mcdonalds as she wasn't allowed to bring her own food in!!!! How rediculous!! What is she supposed to do unhook her boobs and leave them outside!! Stupid stupid ppl.
pls feel free to bf in the cafes and stuff, we dont batter an eye (although we normally send a female member of staff to clear tables around you as our younger males get a bit red cheeked,bless em, our male mangers wouldnt even notice and are fathers themselves)
i so wish i hadnt given up so easily but i did bf in public during those 3 weeks on most days
http://www.maternityaction.org.uk/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderfiles/breastfeedingpublicplace.pdf
I've not heard of the green sticker thing before but I googled and it seems this is an initiative by some Councils so that establishments can show they are BF friendly. However the absence of a sticker doesn't mean they can ask you to leave, that's discriminatory.
On a personal level, I have never encountered any negative comments BFing in public, at worst curious stares and in one shopping centre a bit of pointing (by, you guessed it, a group of women :roll: ). So I'm really shocked by the reaction you encountered but huge respect for telling her where to go!
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I feed wherever I am now, but I was very shy in the first 6 weeks. If I'd had negative comments then I think it really would have affected me. Now they'd be sorry if they tried it!! But I think people don't realise just how much their own ignorant attitude could affect someone.