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Stopping breastfeeding 13mth baby
I'm wanting to stop breastfeeding my toddler (she's 13 mths) but she won't leave me alone. She pulls at my top & bra to get to my boobs, has anyone experienced this? What can I do?
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Hi,
My little girl is nearly 13 months old and she is the same. From reading magazines and books you kind of expect them to just stop or cut down to a civilised morning and evening feed but this is apparantley not what natural instincts tell the baby!
It is completely normal for your toddler to still want to breastfeed a lot. They stil get a lot of benefit from it both from the milk itself in terms of antibodies+nutrition and emotionally. The world health organization also recommend nursing for at least two years. Naturally, as a species humans wean somewhere between 3 and 7 years.
Of course in our culture it is not easy to continue breastfeeding.
What is your reason for wanting to stop breastfeeding? If you think about the situations that you normally nurse at the moment, eg when your lo hurts themselves or is upset or just cranky or tired, these will be a lot more difficult to deal with without nursing.
But if you stil want to stop it is best to do it gradually. Don't offer to feed but don't refuse if your lo asks. Try distraction, with games or offering a snack (healthy) or drink instead to gradually space out nursings. Avoid sitting down in places where you usually nurse. Give lots of cuddles.
hi, I've got a lil lady, 10 1/2months now and refuses any and all kinds of formula and even expressed milk weather in a bottle (tried several!!) or sippy cup (loads of those too!!), I am at my whits end on what to do, I bottle fed my other 3 children, as a desperate last resort she is going to her gran over night so I can't feed her, she can't smell me and is in a totally different house, after the 1st night my neighbour (a child minder) is going to try and give her her night time bottle. I have an MRI soon as I have slipped discs and also suffer migraine and I'm not allowed to feed her for 48hrs after, I've tried expressing but it has never been great, wont make much difference anyway as she'll only have it straight from the breast!! No-one ever even mentioned the problems about stopping breastfeeding when I started!! I'm not sure if its me reflecting the worry I feel onto her and she's picking up on it as I'm really quiet happy feeding her!! I'm trying to not feed her in the day but I swear she spends most of midnight to 7am feeding. They'll be a light at the end of the tunnel (hopefully soon!!) I hope you find a soulition somehow, your LO wont think she's done anything wrong, she prob wont quite understand but if your migranes are back with a vengance you need your meds otherwise, if they're anything like mine, you're no use to anyone. Sounds odd but have you tried saying 'milk' just before you breastfeed?? offer milk during the day in a cup/bottle and say milk when you give it to her, she'll soon work out its around about the same thing and learn she can have a cuddle with you/someone else AND milk without the breast.Good luck, hope it works out ok x
My lil lady's the same, needs a feed to sleep, wakes up every hr before midnight and then wakes every couple of hrs after midnight for a feed, I know my milk is just not enough to see her through the night and to top it off any nap she has in the daytime are from 5mins to an hr max!! I'm starting to wish I'd bottle fed her!!
I'm with you on that 1!! I've told the dr I can only have my MRI without the contrast injection as I cant get her to take a bottle formula/expressed, I'll keep trying but at least I can relax a bit more about it now, hopefully she'll realise that formula isn't me trying to poison her!! hoping she'll be ok with cows milk when she's old enough.
I'm still breastfeeding my 23 month old, we both still enjoy it though I was planning to stop when he turns two! May continue a bit longer as he still likes it and asks for it. I breastfed my daughter till she was 2 also. Stopping wasn't hard then in fact as I found out I was expecting no 2. I told her "you're a big girl now." I have never given formula to either child and am pleased breastfeeding has been so easy and satisfying for me and the children.
I agree, it's a really hard and emotional decision to make!
I work as a peer supporter in a breastfeeding clinic and I find it crazy how new mums are really encouraged to breastfeed and then all of a sudden a few months later family, friends, strangers are wondering ..is it normal to still nurse at that age?
I am still breastfeeding my 6 month old little boy, and want to try and continue as long as possible -
You could try and go to your health visitor or local breastfeeding support as they are completely un-judgemental and if you want to stop nursing (i.e. gillimum with your migranes) I reckon they could give you some really good advice and help! xx
Wow thats really great that you managed to breastfeed until 15 months! My little boy is quite good at night and sleeps right through (at the moment!!) I don't know what will happen when I have to go back to work because it might upset his routine and I guess then I'll be back on here asking for ideas on how to get him to sleep!
Is horlicks ok to give as an infant drink? I've been really strict - little man is only allowed milk or water - and he HATES water! I got told that juice and squash should be avoided as they might cause a sweet tooth and as tooth brushing is hard with little ones not a good idea?
Horlicks is really high in sugar, unfortunately, you might be better making smoothies with fruit?
Unfortunately nor I or anyone can tell you what that might be.
It's a matter of try everything and see what they are attracted to and want to investigate with that natural curiosity.
Some use the example of other children, saying "Look! None of the big boys and girls still have mummy milk".
Books, toys, nursery games and songs.
She's such a clever little monkey.