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I have pcos and have been trying for a baby with no luck

Ive been trying for 17 months for a baby with my husband and was diagnosed with pcos. I am having treatment recently just finished my last lot of clomid and still nothing. I am waiting for my next appointment at the fertility clinic. But i think im suffering with depression, and seem to be pushing my husband away as he is fit and healthy, its my fault we cant have a baby, hes told me he wont but i fear i will loose him because of my depression, and not being able to give him a baby. Theres been a baby boom at work and its really getting me down, my brother in law had a child he is now 7 months old and through being so unhappy ive never met him, even though they live nextdoor, and wont even aknowledge he exists, which i know is horrible as hes innocent but i just cant bring myself to go anywhere near him. Its just so hard. I have bought loads of baby stuff like clothes etc as i always think buying a bit here and there will help financially, my husband thinks its therapy. Its a secret about us wanting a baby, noone knows about it as i dont want their sympathy. Im looking for women with same condition and difficulties as myself to talk with. I feel so lonely on this journey and feel i will never have my baby and i dont know what to do

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  • hi do you still have periods? i have PCOS and endometriosis and i was told for many years that i could never have children naturally. if im lucky i only get my period twice a year. i was put on northisterone to help with a period then to start taking chlomid on day 2 of my cycle for 5 days. then i had an ultrasound scan to see if i was going to ovulate, i did ovulate the weekend after my scan and i concieved first time.

  • hi i suffer with PCOS myself and it runs in my family my mum suffers with this also she has 6 children and one on the way i have 2 cvhildren and one on the way, you can get pregnant with PCOS its just hard for some people like in your case, maybe if your search up on PCOS maybe you will find something to help you, dont push your partner away do things toghter go out for the day romantic dinners or going for long walks take your mind of getting pregnan straight away, look at the possiblities of PCOS you may be quite suprised, take your partner to doctors appointments tell them how you feel and how its effecting you and your partners love life, is there ways of getting pregnant naturally, with me my polysistic ovaries flare up and go away and come back again xx get back in touch if this has helped or let me know how you and your partner get on xxxx

    gud luck and lots of baby dust to incrase fertillty and make your flur ups go away xxx***********************************************************************************baby dust***********************************************************************************imageimage

  • hi, i dont have periods i only have them if i take a drug prescribed by my fertility doctor called proveria. ive had 3 courses of clomid with no result, and im goingto start my 4th course a the end of this month. My fertility nurse remains positive but im trying to play it down to not get my hopes up. Ive had a hycosy and luckily my tubes arent blocked. Im feeling a bit more happier now but not looking forward to being on clomid again, as i was on that drug when i was feeling my most lowest. Im not pushing my husband away as much, and ive been buying the odd baby item, which helps me, he thinks ita kind of therapy. thanks for your support, and congrats to you both on your babies, hopefully i will follow at some stage soon. x x

  • Hi,

    I just wanted to give you a few reassuring messages.

    My mom had to have clomid to have me and here I am 22 years later. I have PCOS although she was never diagnosed this is what we believe my mom had too.

    I have also got an abnormal womb so my chances are massively reduced yet again.

    I find myself pushing my fianc?? away even though it's not his fault. A lot of our friends have had babies this year and I have really struggled.

    If you want to chat I'm here just PM me image

    Its not nice to know our situations but reassuring to find someone that feels the same, as my friends and fianc?? think I'm loosing the plot!!

  • Have you tried using Preseed around the time of 'ovulation'? I have PCOS and have 2children. I have been trying for a third for 9 months without luck, until 22nd July I used Preseed (which is a sperm friendly lubricant). I got a BFP this morning.



    Thousands of women swear by this lubricant as it assists spermies on their journey and helps carry them to their 'destination', so to speak.



    Check it out on Amazon. It might be worth considering during your last round of Clomid.



    Good luck x
  • Hi, thank you, I have never heard of this stuff. Just looked online sounds amazing! And the price is hardly anything so I deem it worth a try. I've ordered one. I will await my scan results to see if a folicle has grown and will use it. X
  • Ah good, I'm glad I managed to message you before ov. Fingers crossed for you, I know how tough it is trying to concieve with PCOS.



    Good luck x
  • I was put on Metformin to help with my PCOS. After i had my girls i was told that it would be impossible for me to get pregnant again.

    After taking Metformin for 6 months wolla i now have a beautiful 8 month old boy! My sister in law also has PCOS, the same for her after trying for many years was put on to Metformin. After 4 months on the drug they now also have a 7 month old baby boy.

    Worth a talk with your Dr.

     

  • I completely understand how you all feel or felt. I have struggled for over 15 years I hardly ever had a period unless given prover. But up until the beginning of this year did I actually start having periods, my husband & I want to TTC. No luck what so ever. I have PCOS I've been on metformin for a lil more than 1 year & started on clomid 50mgs from march to july not luck OV. My doctor then moved me up to 100mg of clomid this month & still no OV. My progesterone level at the beginning of treatment was o.o5 now at the end of this months treatment my progesterone level bearly moved to 1.7 n 100mg of clomid. I'm am so torn & feel forsaken. So emotional I can hardly stand myself I feel sorry for my husband for having to deal with my emotions. Well I had my last doctor appointment on the 20th of this month & my doctor pretty much said he was sorry & wanted to send me to a fertility specialist I feel so hopeless & hurt with the way my life has turned out. Why does this have to be so difficult? I avoid family gatherings I avoid baby showers & I avoid babies because I start to cry as soon as I can get away from anyone seeing how hard it affects me. So hopeless & so affraid the fertility specialist will not be able to help me.
  • I was diagnosed with PCOS 2 years ago. My partner and I have just decided to start trying for a baby. If I don't have a period In 6 weeks I have to go to my doctor and I'll put me on a medicine to jump start my period. My doctor told me that he sees me pregnant within the first year I'll try I just wondered if this seemed realistic or if he's just being nice feel free to email me your responses please thank you very much
  • Hi there,



    Did your doc say he'll prescribe you with Chlomid to help you conceive? I was taking that with my first child and it worked during my first cycle.



    If he hasn't prescribed Clomid, I think that's a bit odd as you've already been diagnosed with PCOS which results in infertility/sub-fertility.



    Although to be honest, I guess it also depends on other factors including your weight, whether you smoke, whether you have other issues surrounding your PCOS.



    I'm currently pregnant with my third child and although I was diagnosed wth PCOS 10 years ago, however my second and third pregnancies were conceived naturally, so it can happen.



    I would also strongly recommend using Pre-seed as it helps your hubby's swimmers get to their destination!! Amazing stuff, check it out on amazon!!



    Good luck xx
  • I was diagnosed with pcos three years ago .my partner and I have being trying for the past two years.but no result yet.I have being on provera, metformin, Clomid no result .am even tired
  • Hi everyone, thanks for all your messages and support. I haven't been on her for a while. I hope your all doing well. I have some wonderful news. I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant. My gran died around the time I conceived and I believe she helped me. I was on my 4th round of clomid, and had the folicle tracking they said there was no dominant folicle so it hadn't worked. But something must of as I fell pregnant. I'm sorry to hear about all your struggles, I understand what your going through. But it can happen, I believed it wouldn't for me. But amazingly it has! I was private messaging another lady on here as we were helping each other, as our problems were very alike. And she also fell pregnant shortly after I did. Miracles do happen. I thank you all for your support and wish you all the best of luck if your trying to have a baby. I know its hard but never loose hope, as it does happen. X x
  • I second Maskara'a message, I'm the other lady!

    I'm currently 14 weeks, and sometimes I know success stories aren't what you want to hear but if your like me they give you the light at the end of the tunnel.

    I never thought this would happen and magically it has!



    Never loose faith, always be positive, good things will come to you!

    Take care and if you have any questions please send me a message x
  • i have pcos as being in remission from panceratic cancer and well i buy baby clothes and dummies i hostley dont know y i do it  me and my partner have been trying 4     2 years  and no luck im so depressed aswell at the moment i cant see the light at the end of my tunnle 

  • XchelX don't give up have you tried everything? Clomid metformin, timing, what have you tried? Do not give up. Just yet .
  • I have been trying to concieve for 1 year and 6 months now and have just been diagnosed with polycystic ovaries and a bicornuate uterus. I was told my age at 22 goes in my favour but have read awful things online. I'm so woriied i'll never have my own children as this is all ive ever wanted. Has any one had both of these conditions and concieved naturally and given birth? Please give me hope.
  • I found out a month ago I have pcos. Me and my husband have been trying for a year for a baby... seems everyone around me is having babies... and its making me sort of depressed about the whole thing... plus me and my husband have been fighting as well.. I feel slightly discouraged.. im on metformin now hoping it helps.. any other suggestions?
  • i was 17 when i found out that i had pcos it was heartbreaking for me, am now 20 and me and my partner have been trying for a baby for over a year now and we are having no luck at all we got transferred to a gynecologist (not sure if thats the correct spelling) to get help and they have took the piss with helping us, i feel like its taking for ever and i feel like giving up. i dont want to say to my self its not goin to happen. i have tried everything i could think of doing to help but nothing. i think it would help me if i could talk to someone that has the same and knows what am going tho coz i feel like i have no1 to talk to about this. hopefully someone could help thanks image  

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