Does Your Mother Know??

MrsRobson · Apr 7, 2010 1:09PM

I'd be really interested to know how many of you have told your parents that you are trying and about the PCOS etc...

I'm in two minds.... I don't want the feeling of failure if I say we're trying and then don't produce a grandchild but on the other hand my sister was diagnosed with PCO a couple of years back and said she'd spoken with my mother about it and she reckons he has it too. So that leaves me with a whole load of questions I kinda want to ask.... But I can't really do that without giving the game away, can I??!!

What are your experiences of telling/not telling and would you have done anything differently?

Baby dust xx

AOEno4 · Mar 26, 2010 6:17AM

I didn't tell my mum we were trying but did tell her about my pcos. I had to ask her about her history and just said I had been referred due to v irregular periods (1 every 6+months) I did mention to her that specialist had told me it would be v difficult to conceive due to state of ovaries. That way she wasn't asking questions and waiting expectantly. When I got pg with my first it was a nice suprise for her. only downside was she was all - the dr doesn't know anything you got pg with out even trying (it took us 4 years) made me want to scream about hwat we went through to get there. I told them i was trying with my 2nd so she was prepared itwas a good thing as well as I had 3mc between July and dec 2008 and she needed to look after my ds1. Then I finally made it and now have ds2 who is 14weeks old. However I won't be telling her when I ttc again as I felt pressured with qu such as have you done it yet?
It depends on your mum - what is she like?
But you can def say abuot PCOS without giving game away by saying you were referred due to irregular cycles/ or other symptoms saying you went to dr worried it might be somwthing else.

MrsRobson · Mar 27, 2010 7:16AM

Hmmmmmm..... See I just can't stand the thought of my mother enquiring each time I ring or giving me 'advice' cos it'll bug the hell out of me!! And if I said about my PCOS she would know straight away - there's no hiding anything from my mother!!
I think I'll leave it for now cos it will probably do my head in if she knows!! Still.... it would be nice to know how she got pregnant with me and my sis and if she had problems but if I start that conversation she WILL end up knowing!
Let's just hope it happens soon so I can talk about it! Just got my referral letter from the doctor yesterday so fingers crossed I'll be seeing a specialist soon!
Take care xx

catherine133 · Mar 29, 2010 2:31PM

Hi MrsRobson

I told my mum but then I pretty much tell her everything as we are very close. My mum is a real worrier so thought she would be worried etc but she wasnt and actually when I told her about it all she said it sounded like thats what she had as well as she always had irregular periods etc so was nice to speak to someone about it. I am lucky that I dont feel any pressure from her at all but if I thought I would then I probably wouldnt have told her!! PS Glad you got reffered!

fergy · Mar 30, 2010 2:54PM

Hey hun

think it totally depends on how your mum will react. I've told my family (mum, sis, bro) that we're TTC and about the PCOS and they don't ask questions and don't offer chat unless I start it. We haven't told OH's parents (he's an only child) as that would lead to WAY too much pressure, pointed comments, questions etc!

Glad to see you're finally being referred - fingers crossed you get some answers soon! xxx

MrsRobson · Apr 7, 2010 1:09PM

Thanks for the advice guys. I'm holding off for now as I would probably pressure myself more than anything if they knew. And I still think it would do my head in if my mother started giving me bits of 'advice!'
Oh and by the way I've got my gyn appointment coming up now on Monday. Fingers crossed!
Babydust to all xxx

Does Your Mother Know??

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