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Ugly babies?
Hi ladies
I was at john lewis at the week end. And so many babies around the childcare department. As I was looking for a cot.
What is the matter withme. Why do all other babies seem funny looking to me. It's the worst thing ever. I would be so offended if someone were to tell me my or think my baby is ugly. I hope I dont think my baby is ugly. I know mymum had something like this when she gave birth to my brother. Was in denial and claimed it couldn't be her child!!!!!
Will this happen to me too?
Tash+bump
I was at john lewis at the week end. And so many babies around the childcare department. As I was looking for a cot.
What is the matter withme. Why do all other babies seem funny looking to me. It's the worst thing ever. I would be so offended if someone were to tell me my or think my baby is ugly. I hope I dont think my baby is ugly. I know mymum had something like this when she gave birth to my brother. Was in denial and claimed it couldn't be her child!!!!!
Will this happen to me too?
Tash+bump
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My hubby says all babies look the same or are ugly! However, he says his baby will be a cutie even if it has all our worst features
I look at the photos of me when i was a baby with a double chin. Probably the least cutest out of me and my siblings lol. I will just remember to only show people the cute photos if thats the case lol!
My oh sometimes says god I hope our kid doesn't look like that. And I feel really bad, like if I don't have a beautiful child, I will have failed him...I sound so selfish and pathetic I know. But it's a real fear as the birth gets closer. He was so gorgeous at my 4D scan mind you with his little button nose.
Please tell me someone else feels this way?! xxxx
I could never imagine calling a baby, especially someone elses baby 'ugly'... maybe its just me, but i think it sounds a bit harsh and cruel.
Just like another saying 'If you have nothing good to say don't say anything"... ?!
I'm sure you'll think you're baby is the most precious, gorgeous thing ever... doesn't every parent think that?!
my DS1 came out looking like a little old man - he had lots dark hair and little sideburns - still a cutie though - DS1 looks like me and my 2nd on his scan you could tell he was his daddy's son by his profile (big nose) LOL!
This one pg3 is a little girlie and profile looks bit softer. Not sure what she'll look like though probably her dad knowing my luck. LOL~!
As for other peoples children. I'm sure they are themost beautiful thing ever. And I might kid might be ugly to other parents. But to me my child will be beautiful.
I want people to give their farest and most honest comments otherwise I would not have asked the question. We are merely here to discuss our fears and concerns and if we cant speak to each other about it then who can we talk to.
And I'm sure none of us would dream of saying to someone their baby is ugly. I would never anyway....I think these ladies have enough on their minds to have to protect what they say. And defend themselves. No need to stress over what other people might think of them cause of their own personal fears.
Tash+Bump
I would never dream of telling someone their child was "ugly" btw. EVER! But we all must have thought it! I will love my child whatever he looks like but I must admit I worry that I will have let my oh down. It's weird, the things you worry about when pregnant. xxxxx
Im not the sort of person like you said to tell somebody that their baby is not very attractive, just like i wouldnt tell a friend or a stranger that I didnt find them attractive too. However, Im sure everyone of us has seen a photo or image of somebody and said 'there not exactly attractive'
Boo???????WantsBaby , i believe tashy wants to show off her baby wants its born but is also worried that it might not be overly attractive. A concern many parents have, this can be seen by replies to this post.
Tashy, am i guessing this is your first? After carrying it around for 9 months im sure one of the first words you will use to describe your bay will be gorgeous! It would be interesting to ask you this same question soon after you give birth all being well lol xxx
Tammi xxx
28.3 weeks
my 1st came out like a pokey lil elf and we still call him that now even though his features have changed alot. - i think my boys r gorgeous even if other people dont.
Even if people think ur child is ugly - u wont - especially after all them ours of pain, sweat and tears!! trust me!
Of course the baby didn't stay looking like that and she IS beautiful but this was my friends third so she was fairly blasee (sp) and knew what to expect! I'm sure we don't look a picture right afterwards lol
and really you get both attractive and unattractive people thats just life!
Of course I'll think my baby is beautiful but thats love for you! x
I look at photos now of my first daughter (she's 14) when she was a newborn & she looks really ugly (puffy, squashed, bruised face from just being born), but like someone else said she didn't stay like that & is gorgeous now (been accepted by a modelling agency). Funny thing is, straight after I had her I thought she was the most beautiful thing in the world, was totally overcome with love for her - must have been my hormones!!!!!!
Seriously though..... My mum had a huge problem with my brother. My nan had to have a strong word with her. She refused to touch my brother. Of course my brother is a hunk now. And my mum says its quite common to sometimes think your baby is ugly. Has this got part to do with post natal depression. I used to laugh at myself and tell myself off for thinking hope my baby dont look like that.
But what happens if my baby is something I look at and I say eeewwww!!! Something tells me I will not stop loving her though. Of course and after time you start thinking. Shut up. This is your own child. Pull yourself together.
I guess it's just fears of not being the perfect mother. Which I know I wont be. No one is.
Tash+Bump
But I also have a funny story - my cousin gave birth about a year ago, cute little girl (but as everybody knows not so cute straight after birth). So my cousins little sister (8 years old at the time) looked at the baby and said - "I dont think I will want babies when I grow up." hahahaah Everyone stood there laughing :P
But I bet all our babies will be just gorgeous and we ll love them tons!
Besides moms are funny people as well, my mom often says I have a small head and too big boobies ... but I know she s just jealous I HAVE boobies, as she has none :P (we three kids ate them out hahahahah)
I have been warned about babies looking ugly when they first come out. I never knew they got squashed! I was a c-section baby and was gorgeous. My sister on the other hand was bald and had a huge head, my mum had to have another section cos of how huge the head was hahaha. Can you tell my sister is round and is annoying me?! xxxxxxx
But I guess I will let you know when she arrives next month. You better report back Tiger lily, not long for you now...... How exciting is this!!!!!
sorry im a bit of a goober at the mo, dead soppy lol forgot what the whole point of this post was. sorry lol xxxx
Cheers for this post. Your just saying what we have all thought at some point. Lets face it, if all babies were cute there would be no ugly adults....Me and my OH have jokingly had this conversation and he also spots other babies and says I hope ours doesnt turn out that bad. Where as I tend to hone in on the noisey little terrors with the same thought, I dont want one of those. My sisters little boy was early and came out with dark hair all down his back arms and ears, he looked like a mini wearwolf, believe me it was alot of hair (Hes quite cute now though). God did we laugh, as her first response was thats not mine.
Its perfectly normal to worry about these things, we all do it. God if we cant have unrational thoughts during a hormone filled pregnancy when can we..