If you couldn't conceive.......
Do you think you'd try IVF or would you look into adoption?
I know this is only our 3rd 2WW but I've been thinking a lot about this recently (I am a born worrier!). I would probably give it a year to 18 months before considering other options, but the more I think about it the more I'm leaning towards adoption rather than IVF.
Just wondered what you lovely ladies think about this, if indeed you've even considered it at all!
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I know this is only our 3rd 2WW but I've been thinking a lot about this recently (I am a born worrier!). I would probably give it a year to 18 months before considering other options, but the more I think about it the more I'm leaning towards adoption rather than IVF.
Just wondered what you lovely ladies think about this, if indeed you've even considered it at all!
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Im not sure, i dont really know about each option, but i think id go for adoption rather than IVF. The only reason im thinking this though is that i dont think it would be as emotionally draining in that the end product is out of your hands. Whereas although im only new to ttc i feel like things are MY FAULT when they dont go the way i want them to.
So i can imagine adoption would let me go with the flow more and put an end to the sadness of my not being able to conceive (if that was the situation).
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edited due to terrible spelling!!!
[Modified by: HomeFairy on January 31, 2010 03:57 PM]
I'm really hoping that it's a decision I won't have to make, especially as I suspect hubby would much prefer to try IVF. It's so hard waiting to be a mammy isn't it?!! x
I have been trying forever and are only just staring to get help, we have said twos rounds of IVF max then call it a day.... I am hoping it wont get that far as am desperate for a child.
I always tell myself that I have a fantastic relationship , we are the happiest couple I know and if we dont have a child we can still have a wonderful life together... great holidays and lots more money to spend! I have seen this situation tear couples apart and I am determind that would never happen to me.
I would be devistated if I didnt have a child but sometimes you have to accept things life throws at you ...
Totally get where you are coming from Mrs Robertson. My need to be a mummy is more pressing than my need to be pregnant, and I am definitely someone who needs to feel in control, so I would rather have a disaster recover plan than nothing at all.
Both choices are hard roads to go down. A friend of mine is doing IVF at the moment and it sounds really hard work, stressful both emotionally and physically. I also had a serious look at the adoption process as well recently and that is no walk in the park I can tell you! From what I read it can take up to a year (sometimes more) and the process is extremely involved, detailed and looks very intrusive.
But to be honest if we had to do either I would go with adoption, even though the process looks so intimidating!
But then how long do you keep going with the old ttc before you seek help? A year, 18 months, two years????? I keep thinking, perhaps I should start down the adoption route now - after the heartache of a mmc, I'm not sure I can go through the heartache of ttc too!
Moon and stars it has been over 2 years sonce my MC (when I feel first month of TTC!) we have started to get help now ... I left ti too late wish I had done it earlier but I never thought it would be an issue , plus my Father in law passed away and time just ran away.
I agre with you little wolf if I had children I dont think I would adopt ...
Interesting topic! but lets hope none of us ever have to be in that situation
There's a part of me though that would want to try ivf but only because as much as i was so sick when pregnant with my lo, i would love to be pregnant again xx
Littlewolf thanks for the advice on how long we should leave it before seeking help, I'm 29 and hubby is 37 so I think if nothing happens by September (we started TTC last October) then we'll look into other options.
I don't think I could cope with never being a mammy at all, it's one of my very worst fears. xx
OH and i have decided that if i don't have a bfp before sept then we will stop ttc and just get on with having 1 child and i will have to get over the fact i will never have abother child
If this was my first i think i would want to try IVF although i would look into adoption x
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