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Still hesitating - need help deciding!
For wanting to ttc - (and starting to from now) baby number 2 when we have a 12 week old daughter?
We both reeeeally want another lo and want them to be close in age - BUT we cant help saying - are we doing the right thing - will we cope - will I manage to be pregnant with an under 1 (if we're lucky enough to get BFP quickly that is) - all these questions!!!!
We've pretty much been problem free with Amber so far - except for the first few weeks after my C section - giving up breastfeeding because of mastitis, problems with reflux and the obvious sleepless nights until we got the routine going.........so I know we've been lucky with Amber to have such an easy baby - which makes me wonder if it will be too much of a shock to the system to have 2 babies on our hands.
We want to do it - we have the means to provide for 2 babies, we definately have the love and time for 2 - I just cant help but be a little nervous about going for it so soon - but at the same time we dont want to wait.
I dont know fi this is a pointless post really - I guess Im just looking for reasurance that we are doing the right thing and that we wont detriment Amber or our own health and sanity by having 2 babies close together lol!
xax
We both reeeeally want another lo and want them to be close in age - BUT we cant help saying - are we doing the right thing - will we cope - will I manage to be pregnant with an under 1 (if we're lucky enough to get BFP quickly that is) - all these questions!!!!
We've pretty much been problem free with Amber so far - except for the first few weeks after my C section - giving up breastfeeding because of mastitis, problems with reflux and the obvious sleepless nights until we got the routine going.........so I know we've been lucky with Amber to have such an easy baby - which makes me wonder if it will be too much of a shock to the system to have 2 babies on our hands.
We want to do it - we have the means to provide for 2 babies, we definately have the love and time for 2 - I just cant help but be a little nervous about going for it so soon - but at the same time we dont want to wait.
I dont know fi this is a pointless post really - I guess Im just looking for reasurance that we are doing the right thing and that we wont detriment Amber or our own health and sanity by having 2 babies close together lol!
xax
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This is why I'm not being helpful; we didn't do it. We came into some money and it was a choice at the time of another baby or buying our first home, so we opted for the home to provide a stable base to raise ds and any future children.
I haven't regretted it and we are now TTC number 2. But if I could have done both I would have!! I figure people cope with twins/triplets or more! And having such a wonderfully easy first child would mean if the second child was more of a handful I would be safe in the knowledge that the eldest was happy & easy to deal with!
I hope you decide to go for it but thats only because I wanted to when in your position! In fact we talked about it as I was delivering the placenta!!
Good luck hon xxx