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anyone else not done the deed by 5m?
am I alone? ds2 is just 5m and hubby and I have not even come close to any bedroom activity. I have a long line of excuses, I'm tired, ds2 is in our room, he may wake up, I'm not taking any contraception, I'm scared, I don't want to etc etc etc.
However I think I may have a problem. I feel fine 'down there' now and I know sex after a baby is ok as I've done it before. But I have no sex drive and am exhausted. I'm wondering if it is something I should talk to my HV about, could it be linked with my pnd? It's not fair on hubby anymore. I even have packs of minipills and have not started to take them. I am awful to him.
I think I need help! :
However I think I may have a problem. I feel fine 'down there' now and I know sex after a baby is ok as I've done it before. But I have no sex drive and am exhausted. I'm wondering if it is something I should talk to my HV about, could it be linked with my pnd? It's not fair on hubby anymore. I even have packs of minipills and have not started to take them. I am awful to him.
I think I need help! :
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I have to admit i don't have much of a sex drive anymore, however, i will simply for the intimacy with OH and i find that once we get going i do enjoy it.
Maybe you need to have a good chat with OH and your HV or GP and see if you can sort it out. Don't feel guilty or sorry for your OH, it is not your fault that you feel the way you do.....i never would have believed the way pregnancy, birth and the aftermath have changed me.
I hope you feel better soon
MJx
With LO now sleeping in our room, DH working until 11pm and me not being really bothered, I can't see it happening any time soon - but it doesn't really bother me and I don't think DH is gagging for it either.
mrs_ed
I just wanted to say that it can be 100% normal and I know of people who have waited a year. Giving birth is the single most wonderful and traumatic thing that our bodies will ever go through, so don't put any unnecesary presure on yourself. However if it helps you to talk to your HV go for it! Talk talk talk, don't keep anything bottled up x
Try not to stress!!!