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has anyone got a largeish age gap between no1 and 2??
Hi ladies,
does anyone already have kids? And if so what is the age gaps? I have a dd who is 5. I finish my pill on Thursday and will be tcc afterwards. I'm not sure how dd will react to a new baby after 5 years of my attention all to herself . I would love to hear from anyone who has bigger age gaps between any of their children. I keep having random dreams that I have a new baby and dd gets lost as no one was watching her. It is on my mind a lot. If I ask her how she feels about a little brother or sister she says it would be nice as long as they don't steal her toys! lol. If anyone has any advice or experience with age gaps I would appreciate your input xx
does anyone already have kids? And if so what is the age gaps? I have a dd who is 5. I finish my pill on Thursday and will be tcc afterwards. I'm not sure how dd will react to a new baby after 5 years of my attention all to herself . I would love to hear from anyone who has bigger age gaps between any of their children. I keep having random dreams that I have a new baby and dd gets lost as no one was watching her. It is on my mind a lot. If I ask her how she feels about a little brother or sister she says it would be nice as long as they don't steal her toys! lol. If anyone has any advice or experience with age gaps I would appreciate your input xx
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i think one of the keys is keeping them involved in everything make then just as excited as you
im ttc my 2nd Lennon will be 3 in june and weven been asking him what he would like a brother or sister....keeps changing his mind lol
i have a fear like you tho that he will feel left out and no longer my main boy,i suppose its spending some 'us' time with them also letting know your still very much their mummy also and there for them x
My dd just turned 2 last month so she'll be about 3 at the earliest if we get pregs soon again... I kind of worry about it too but I'm also concerned I'm going to constantly compare the new baby to dd...
G/C from pg but saw this on the front page. I don't have any kids atm but there's 10 years between me and my little sister. When she was born I was really protective of her and got really involved with both my mums pregnancy and my sis as she was growing up. Of course that all changed when I became a teenager lol!
It was a big adjustment but I did feel much better about it with my parents really getting me involved and telling me what was happening.
Good luck!
MFS!!!!!! Long time no see missus!!
I just wanted to reply to say a massive HELLO! And welcome to TTC! That's so exciting you are starting after Thursday! I am still here, we are still TTC-no luck as yet. As you know my two are close together-18 months between them and they will be at least 3 years between no2 and potential number 3 and over 4 and a half years between oldest and youngest.
For what it's worth I think that larger gaps seem nice, your dd is old enough to understand, to get excited and to help you out most importantly! I know that my ds had no real excitment or understanding when I had dd, on the upside there was no jealousy either so I guess both sorts of gaps have their own advantages. But, now my ds would love me to have a baby, he is always asking if we are going to have one and if he is going to have another brother or sister.
Good luck hun, so glad you are back
xxxxx
When she was born we all got him cards for being a big brother. I also make time for just the 2 of us most evenings and especially on a friday night (pizza night) which is when she is in bed.
You will always have some sort of jealousy no matter what age gap but they will cope. He is going to be so protective of her when she is older.
Lindsay xx
I have a gorgeous 5 year old boy and although he keeps asking me for a little bro or sis i do worry that he would really struggle!!!
to be honest though i would make him as involved as possible and he is so independant he can do most things for himself anyway!! He loves little babies and think he will be such a loving big bro!!
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their is 5 years btween me and my bro and 7 yrs btw me and my sis and we have a really good relationship, ppl used to make comments and say " you cant leave too big an age gap they wont be close" which really annoys me. x
Good luck with TTC and hopefully see you across in pregnancy very soon!
Erm, to update you - Mrs Scotty had her little girl, Becciboo a boy, Minieggs and BlueGecko (MrsA) due May, Mrs Raf, Jellytots, Nessie and Hodgey's Doris all due June, Lemon Cupcake, Michhopefulmummy and Gracie19 due July, myself and NicolaH due August and Sparkly Fairy due October!! Have i missed anyone?!
Good to have you back hun xx
MFS, welcome back! Hope your stay in TTC isnt long! I'm sure your DD will love being a big sister!
Wishing you lots of sticky baby dust
N x
In terms of the gap-me and my elder siblings are all close in age 13-18 months tops between each, but there is a 7 year gap with me and my little brother. To be honest i think there were jealousy issues at first but i think like most children you just adapt in the end. I'm sure your daughter will be fine. I do like the suggestions of keeping her involved etc as i can see that this would help. All the best with TTC. xx
michelle
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Good luck and baby dust!!! xxx
I don't have kids of my own yet but there's a five year age gap between my younger sister and I. It's not as large as some of the gaps mentioned here but big enough, and we have always got along brilliantly (certainly better than most of my friends who had siblings closer in age).
I'm sure it's becuase ther competitive element wasn't there as we were always at different life stages. We still played together all the time though and had a lot of fun. Now we're older the age difference is barely noticeable and we still get along just great.
I can't remember feeling any jealousy towards her at all when she was born so as long as you are careful to make sure your eldest always feels included I'm sure you will be fine. xx
I have 2 children from my previous marriage. My daughter will be 12 in july and my son will be 10 in August.
Our baby is due in October so there will be a 12 year and 10 year age gap between my children.
Ready made helpers lol.
Fingers crossed to you all and a damn good sprinkling of baby dust
bm xx