Any ideas what on earth could be wrong with him?!
Hi girls,
were having an awful time with maxs sleep at the moment, he was down to one wake up at 4am but the past 2 nights he's woken at 9pm and will not settle at all, he'll sleep fitfully lying on me but the second you lie him back down he thrashes about, full on hysterics. Last night, we didn't want a repeat of the night before where I'd been awake all night with him lying on me so we set up camp next to his cot and he screamed for 2 and a half hours, nothing soothed him, he nodded off eventually only to wake an hour later! By 3am, we'd had enough so brought him into our bed and he slept on and off with his head on my back!
He's been poorly lately-ear infection, teething and swine flu jab but he's better now. He's struggling to settle in nursery so I wonder if this is all behavioural and he's anxious, he's horribly whingy and clingy on and off through the day.
My other thought is some kind of food intolerance, he's wheezy and his nose is like a tap but maybe this is just a cold? Oh I don't know, I'm totally clutching at straws. We just don't know how to handle it, I know it's a bad idea to bring him straight in with us but I can't do what we did last night again, we all need some sleep!
Any thoughts? Xx
were having an awful time with maxs sleep at the moment, he was down to one wake up at 4am but the past 2 nights he's woken at 9pm and will not settle at all, he'll sleep fitfully lying on me but the second you lie him back down he thrashes about, full on hysterics. Last night, we didn't want a repeat of the night before where I'd been awake all night with him lying on me so we set up camp next to his cot and he screamed for 2 and a half hours, nothing soothed him, he nodded off eventually only to wake an hour later! By 3am, we'd had enough so brought him into our bed and he slept on and off with his head on my back!
He's been poorly lately-ear infection, teething and swine flu jab but he's better now. He's struggling to settle in nursery so I wonder if this is all behavioural and he's anxious, he's horribly whingy and clingy on and off through the day.
My other thought is some kind of food intolerance, he's wheezy and his nose is like a tap but maybe this is just a cold? Oh I don't know, I'm totally clutching at straws. We just don't know how to handle it, I know it's a bad idea to bring him straight in with us but I can't do what we did last night again, we all need some sleep!
Any thoughts? Xx
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Anyway, in an attempt to make you smile, Peter's newest trick is to only poo once a day, either in the bath (daddy loves that!) or so explosively that he needs a bath! He is having prunes with every meal but it doesn't seem to help! Oh, the joys of babyhood, eh?
Seriously, though, I hope you all get a bit more sleep. My guess would be that if he hasn't been too well and is still struggling to settle at nursery, any little thing off with him is going to disturb him and make him difficult to resettle. I wish I had a practical suggestion, but all I can offer is sympathy, I'm afraid.
Thanks for letting me rant! Xx
No, I don't think its silly of you to take him in with you. At some point you need sleep just to keep functioning. Every baby is different, so you do what you need to do. You had him down to one feed a night so I am sure that this is just a phase and you will figure out how to get him back in his own bed once he has grown out of the waking, I know you will.
As for still breastfeeding, I've just got back from the States where two of my cousins are still breastfeeding their little girls overnight, at 18 and 21 months respectively. So you are not alone, I promise!
OH took her to clinic this week, she had to go due to weight loss and he told her about lack of sleep, contant colds, unsettledness etc etc..and she did say that there is sooo much sickness going around and their immune systems are low whilst ill and teething so they will just catch everything and it does disrupt them all round...she also told him that they do naturally get a bit more clingy and wary at this age and it is just phase!
so im afraid again no advice to offer but can understand how ur feeling, and its certainly made me feel a bit better knowing that im not alone with a waking clingy sick baby!! only thing i can say is just get some rest wen u can...and i do hope that ur medication is getting sorted
Hugs xxx
His milks deffo an issue, I'm trying to drop his day feeds but he's not drinking enough cows milk to compensate and this afternoon he was so upset, pulling at my top so I fed him and he was happy as larry afterwards. So, I'm going to carry on feeding as normal until nursery and his sleep is settled.
We tried leaving him to cry again last night, we pop in every 10mins but he just doesn't stop, you get to half an hour, an hour, it's even gone on for 2hours-he's got no off button as is far stronger willed than I am! My plan tonight is to go straight to him and stay by his cot to reassure him, if that doesn't help then he can just come into our bed again, it's big enough for a little wriggly one, I just know we shouldn't do it and were reinforcing the crying.
Anyway, it's good to have a ramble, thanks again girls xx
Has Max just started Nursery? If he has, Daisy-Mae was like this when she started nursery. My HV said it was some sort of separation anxiety. You guys all know how great Daisy is at sleeping and this was a real shock to the system.
I was dead against any form of controlled crying, but in the end we had to give in. It was hard and I didn't do a really harsh version of it, but once I knew she had everything she needed, I would leave her for about 6 mins, then back in for cuddle and calm down and repeat. Mostly, it was less than 10 mins, but horrible to hear nevertheless!
If it was too hard, I would take her into our room and lie on the bed, stroking her until she was deeply into her sleep pattern. I loved this if I'm honest and did this far more than I did the CC -bad mummy! Lying her on the bed was better for calming her down than lying on me - although I spent hours getting kicked and punched in the face, plus getting my hair yanked out!
I wouldn't mess about with his feeds etc at the moment - he's got so much going on at the moment that it'll be too much for him! My HV again said not to worry about changing the milk at 12 months on the dot - do it when it feels right, which is what we've done!
Sending lots of hugs and hope it gets better soon
C x
I'm not going to change his milk-I thought I had to stop bfing due to medication I may have been having to take but touchwood I'm doing ok without and even if I do have to stop it's not imminent so I'm going to carry on with his 3 feeds a day until he's settled.
He only woke twice last night so he's definately getting better.
Thanks for all your support girls, I really appreciate it, it's good to know this is all 'normal' especially as my mummy friends have never had any significant sleep problems with their babies , I automatically blame myself-I sometimes feel like where did I go so wrong with it all so it's good to know max isn't the only one not sleeping well and that it's just another phase xx
Freya was much more clingy when she first started with the childminder, it is such a big change for them. I took your approach and decided it was just a phase and so I dont' think there is any harm in bringing him into your bed. Once he realises Mummy is still there it'll get easier. The stopping breast feeding is so so hard - like Max Freya LOVES it. She only gets an afternoon feed 3 days a week when she is with me but she hsa been so upset with me because I've been trying to stop it. She is getting even more demanding about the remaining two feeds. I also want to stop those but I'm a bit scared about it. I think that you are right to keep it going a bit longer. Trying to stop the BF'ing just when he is settling into nursery must be hard on both of you. Freya is refusing any form of milk except breast milk at the moment. She'd take it before but now she is associating it with not being allowed a bf and so won't take it from anyone at anytime. I'm going to stop offering it to her until we've weaned her because I think she might be more likely to take it without the negative conatations, so it is LOTS of yogarts and cheese and a deep hope it is only a temporary refusal! xx
well you're right-it was a phase! He did his usual routine last night of only one wake up, I'm so relieved he's getting back to his old self-he's happy again, he's got his dimples back.
I've now GOT to stop bfing in the next couple of weeks, i need to get back onto a medication I stopped when I got pregnant. I'm seeing the hv tomorrow for some 'advice', I'm anxious about maxs weight though-he's been off his food whilst poorly and he looks so thin, you can see his ribs and spine! He's had loads today though-porridge, toast, biscuit, roast beef dinner, sausage and mash and 2 yoghurt. Hopefully it'll continue and I can fatten him up abit! I'm lacing everything with butter, cream and cheese!
He's really settled well in nursery now, he was a great time while he's there, that's another weight lifted! What a difference a week makes hey?!
I'm also thinking the same about his milk-if there's no alternative he'll drink more cows milk, he does like the taste so hopefully that'll help. Let me know how you get on xx
and not to tempt fate but she has slept thru for the last 2 nites........thats not happened since she was 18wks old!!!! she even had a coughing fit at 3am but settled herself and went back off no crying at all WOW WOW WOW!! thou i was outside her door waiting and crept in to make sure this is the start .
Oh dear sorry rambling again..but stay strong, try not to stress and all will be ok, just may take a bit of time to get there and if u accept that then it makes it easier! xx
Malakin, I'm trying not to worry about his weight-I just hate seeing him looking thin, babies are meant to be all chubby, I worry what they might think in nursery -I hope they don't think I'm not feeding him!
I saw hv yesterday, she was lovely and reassured me that he's fine. I'm not convinced though as he's now dropped down to the 2nd centile-he weighs 18lbs 11! He was born on the 2nd and she said that's where he should naturally be. I'm still on a mission to fatten himup though! I had a feeling he'd dropped after such a bad few weeks . She also said it's fine for me to stop bfing but I'm going to give it another week as he's still not 100 percent, these damn teeth have alot to answer for! His nappies have been toxic the last couple of days!
Thanks again girls, I really appreciate being able to off load here xx