would you let your childminder breastfeed your baby?
i'm quite curious as to what you all think,
i was reading an article about a lady who BF her older child and went on to say how she is a childminder and one time when a baby was distressed she rang the mother to ask if it was ok to BF her to calm her down, the mother did say yes. she then said after that she asked every mum she minded for and only one said no so she regaulry feeds them all.
i find it strange that any mum would be ok with this, not beacuse i think its discusting but beacuse it creates such a closeness between mother nad baby and wouldnt want another woman having this with my baby, i'm not sure i would even be happy with her using EBM in a bottle? esp not if my baby was BF by me?
so what would you do if youe childmider aked you?
i was reading an article about a lady who BF her older child and went on to say how she is a childminder and one time when a baby was distressed she rang the mother to ask if it was ok to BF her to calm her down, the mother did say yes. she then said after that she asked every mum she minded for and only one said no so she regaulry feeds them all.
i find it strange that any mum would be ok with this, not beacuse i think its discusting but beacuse it creates such a closeness between mother nad baby and wouldnt want another woman having this with my baby, i'm not sure i would even be happy with her using EBM in a bottle? esp not if my baby was BF by me?
so what would you do if youe childmider aked you?
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I definately would be mortified if another woman breast fed my baby. I think it is a special bond for a mother and child to share.
I do admire women who donate breast milk to help sick baby's. I feel in those circumstances it is totally different as it not a bonding experience and it also gives poorly LO's the best start if their own mothers can't express.
Blue Gecko 32+1 x
Having said that, I think Salma Hayak did a wonderful thing - I wouldn't be against it in principle (just not MY baby....)
xx
Calleigh is quite right about wet nurses historically. The first 'breast is best' style campaign for breast-feeding dates from the eighteenth century when upper-class women were encouraged to feed their own children (and generally be more involved in their lives and educations) rather than farm them out to wet nurses.
If these women were out working who gave this childminder permission (sorry but I find it hard to believe in the first place that they did!) then wouldn't they have either expressed their OWN milk for the baby for the day and evening?, or the baby would have already been introduced to formula?. so I cant fathom as to why a childminder would need to breast feed someone elses baby? or even offer?! Christ if a childminder ASKED me that, and I said "erm no thank you, give her my own milk that I expressed or the formula please?" i would then be sat there worrying that this woman had over stepped the boundary and was breast feeding MY baby anyway behind my back!!!
Not on your life nelly!
It gives me the creeps. Reminds of that film 'hand that rocks the cradle'
I understand everyone will have their own point of view and opinion. I'm just giving my own personal one. Its basically up to each Mother what they would do. I just know what I'd do.
I can understand a woman doing it in a country of famine where the babies were going to die unless they were fed by someone willing to 'donate' their own breast milk because the babies own Mother was dead or wasn't able to feed it. But in this country?? no way, not in my house!
Em x xx
However, I PERSONALLY wouldn't be able to stand someone else BFing my baby. I can think of lots of logical reasons such as the ones babybarbarella mentioned (don't know what that person is eating/drinking/taking) but tbh it's much more primal than that. The closest analogy I can think of is that it would be like giving someone else permission to sleep with my husband! Over my dead body.
C
It is all a bit odd tho!!
Gemm x
1.breastmilk from a breast of a mother
2.breastmilk from a breast of another woman
3.expressed breastmilk from a mother
4.expressed breastmilk from a breast of another woman
5. and the very last -formula!!!!!
here are two extracts from the article
" i was looking after a two month old biy who was crying and wouldnt stop. i called his mother and asked if i could breastfeed him. she was shocked, but i told her there was no harm in it and she agreed."
"after i offered to do it again so his mum wouldnt have to worry about expressing milk"
surely he would then refuse his mums milk if he was being BF anyway, or do i watch too much tv? i'm hoping she tried other methods to soothe him like feeding him his mothers milk before BF him, the article doesnt go into that.
1.breastmilk from a breast of a mother
2.breastmilk from a breast of another woman
3.expressed breastmilk from a mother
4.expressed breastmilk from another woman
5.formula
There is no way i'd put my baby at risk by allowing them to drink a childminders breast milk! I also think bf is a bonding experience too.
I do think donating milk is a safe and amazing thing to do for sick babies that is properly screened so it is safe x x