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Just been told formula is harmful. GRRRRR
I am so upset and angry so apologise for the rant but i need to get it down
Fin is/was tongue tied and has just had it snipped. Now he is fine and is feeding so all is good there but the women who did it has made me really cross.
We had made the choice for him to have it done so what she said didn't sway us but i am sure that it is wrong
she basicaaly said that if he didn't have it cut i may give him formula and that would be reaaly bad as formula is harmful. surely this is not true.
I am so upset. last night we gave fin formula at bed time and he was much happier after it but now i feel awful for doing it. it took me long enough to stop feeling guilty even before she sais that.
now i can't stop crying. i am upset that i just put my baby through that (even tho he is fine and it was a minor thing) and so so angry at this lady.
there is way too much pressure tp breast feed and to say formula is harmful is a horrid thing to say.
:x :x :x
Fin is/was tongue tied and has just had it snipped. Now he is fine and is feeding so all is good there but the women who did it has made me really cross.
We had made the choice for him to have it done so what she said didn't sway us but i am sure that it is wrong
she basicaaly said that if he didn't have it cut i may give him formula and that would be reaaly bad as formula is harmful. surely this is not true.
I am so upset. last night we gave fin formula at bed time and he was much happier after it but now i feel awful for doing it. it took me long enough to stop feeling guilty even before she sais that.
now i can't stop crying. i am upset that i just put my baby through that (even tho he is fine and it was a minor thing) and so so angry at this lady.
there is way too much pressure tp breast feed and to say formula is harmful is a horrid thing to say.
:x :x :x
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I don't think anyone denies the evidence that breast milk is better for babies. However, we don't live in a perfect world, and sometimes it's not possible or desirable for a mother to breastfeed. We live in a country where feeding formula is a safe, hygienic and sane solution when breastmilk isn't available or breastfeeding is difficult. It's a perfectly valid way of feeding your child and whilst exclusive breastfeeding might be the ideal, giving your baby formula really is OK.
I'm hugely pro breastfeeding, always have been, always will be, but both my children have had formula and I refuse to feel guilt about that. They are safe, well fed, well cared for and loved, and the substance used to acheive the 'well fed' part of that equation will never be the most important thing in my world.
[Modified by: MrsSetters on April 27, 2010 06:49 PM]
I am like Mrs Setters, very pro breast feeding, but I also see that formula has its place and NO-ONE has the right to make a Mum feel guilt about giving formula to her child. It makes me SO angry that this kind of pressure and guilt is thrown at Mums.
Please ignore her very foolish comment and know that you are doing your very best for your baby, however you choose to feed them
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The woman needs reporting. I am sick to death of people's narrow minded views on this. Like the others have said as long as you're happy thats all that matters. It's flipping well upsetting enough without all these stupid people making comments.
Don't worry xxx
I am feeling much calmer now but still very cross
it was the lady who performed the snip that said it but she is also a breast feeding councilor.
like all of you i am very pro breast feeding but what she said isn't going to stop me giving him formula (once he has got used to breast feeding again)
Don't let them get you down. I was formula fed as was my husband and we both turned out alright.
It makes me soooo angry hearing ppl react like this!! I wish I could've bf my baby &she put on weight doing it but she just hasn't!!
Jayne & rhea xx
anyway, i am not having a go at people who formula feed, just that there needs to be the help there for women who want to give up breastfeeding due to issues like mastitus, thrush, engorgement, inverted nipples etc, to keep them at it folr the baby.
Calleigh - before Matilda was born I promised myself that I would in no way put myself under pressure to BF. In actual fact, it turned out being the world and his wife that put me under pressure! I had lots of issues such as a slight tongue tie, Matilda's upper airway being blocked due to congestion, discovering that my medication for high BP affects the amount of milk I produce. Nearly all of the 'support' I have been offered / encountered has been downright aggressive! Bearing in mind these professionals are dealing with women at a very pivotal point in their lives when hormones are running amok, I would've liked to have seen a little more compassion and understanding. I am FF and topping up with the BM I am able to express. I started to dread BF attempts and I didn't perserve because, quite frankly, it was marring the first few days of my daughter's life for me. I have found it increasingly irritating that I am asked to justify my decision to every single health professional I come into contact with. You are right; help IS there, I just don't think it's offered / administered in a particularly sensitive way all the time. I was not going to spend any more time having my boobs and baby man handled until we were both tearful in an attempt to 'help' us! x
also, i ageee kaycee, that many health professionals used to walk in to my house and ask to see my nipples if the postman asked i'd have probably shown him without thinking
i strongly believe that if women were told the truth, that bfing hurts and is difficult at first and you have to get throught the first 2-6 weeks and here's what you can do to help more women would go longer, rather than being told how natural it is etc and then panicing when it does hurt and stopping.
also, i ageee kaycee, that many health professionals used to walk in to my house and ask to see my nipples if the postman asked i'd have probably shown him without thinking
Ditto!
Good luck girls, your all doing great!
Stef and yellow bump.xx
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