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just curious to find out what u find hard about motherhood??
in Baby
As said in the title.. I'd be grateful for ur feedback, personally I find that not being able to get ur breakfast/cup of tea etc cus my baby starts demanding etc .. Oh n now she's on her feet, she's into EVERYTHING. Please tell me I'm not alone when I say its hard work.
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To be fair, I'm the same with loading the dshwasher, washing up etc cos I'm a complete control freak!!!
Gemma, Ryan and Alfie 7.5 months
I also find the imbalance between my husband's work and mine frustrating. He has a series of conferences this summer which mean several late nights when he will take speakers out to dinner/drinks. There is no question about him going; it is part of his job and he is the main earner. All he has to do is tell me when he won't be home for supper. But I have to negotiate with him to go to one afternoon/evening meeting where I will be networking and pitching for work (I'm freelance). It is totally illogical as I knew this was what I let myself in for when we had children, but I adore my work and I find it really tough not to have found the right balance yet between work and family.
im sure they will be fine but if im not really busy at work ill be stood there worrying!
so yeah worrying is the hardest thing for me. I dont mind being constantly running around and being shattered but oh my god the worry!!!
we had one night in hospital and then started getting seen by hv, she made me feel really bad and did not care about my pnd and had a go about our house being full of moving boxes, had only just moved in when I was 38 weeks and just moved them to one side of our living room. we had no washing machine so cleaning h2b, mine and tyler's clothes over a sink was a nightmare.
so yes when I became I mummy I found it really hard and had no support from family and h2b was working all the time. now I have my 2nd, don't have pnd as bad, very happy, have a washing machine now lol and doing loads better.
judi xx
- Guilt - I feel guilty on a daily basis! I'm always questioning whether I've done the right thing for my son, whether he's eating the right food, whether I'm interacting with him enough etc
- Lack of sleep! I used to need at least 8 hours a night. Now I'm happy with 6 - if they're in a row it's a bonus!
- Lack of me time, and never being on top of things.
Everything else is lovely )
I'm sure this will improve as she gets older, I can't wait until she starts to find some kind of pattern!
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* When they whinge (not sad crying, stroppy crying). I have no patience for it, and it's the only thing that has ever made me raise my voice to Lily ( I feel like yelling, "I work my a*** off for you and spend every waking moment worrying about you, and I'm STILL not good enough!"
Thank goodness my hubby seems to balance me out - though that has also annoyed me sometimes when I think we should genuinely be worried and he doesn't seem bothered! Of course he is bothered, it's just my new found irrational side taking over!!
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