Reality Hitting
Hubby is going back to work on Thursday and I'm terrified.
He makes all the bottles, he hands me them ready to feed Lucas, he reminds me to drink and eat, he takes him for an hour in the morning so I can shower and get dressed, he walks the dog, he tidies the house etc etc etc
How am I going to cope? Lucas won't sleep during the day for more than 10 minutes unless he's cuddled. Like this evening, hubby is out, and I haven't managed dinner yet as he just keeps crying and I canny just ignore him.
How are you ladies coping with all the stuff you need to do?
What if I can't do this? I'm so bloody scared of losing it and getting it wrong.
Hxx
He makes all the bottles, he hands me them ready to feed Lucas, he reminds me to drink and eat, he takes him for an hour in the morning so I can shower and get dressed, he walks the dog, he tidies the house etc etc etc
How am I going to cope? Lucas won't sleep during the day for more than 10 minutes unless he's cuddled. Like this evening, hubby is out, and I haven't managed dinner yet as he just keeps crying and I canny just ignore him.
How are you ladies coping with all the stuff you need to do?
What if I can't do this? I'm so bloody scared of losing it and getting it wrong.
Hxx
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Good luck!
Xxx
Like Feebs says, sometimes you do just have to let them cry whilst you get the essentials done, hard as it is. I also bought a baby carrier and sometimes it's useful to have her in it so at least my hands are free to put the washing in or whatever! Doesn't always stop her crying mind you...
Is there anyone else who can help you out? I'm lucky that my MIL is quite close, she came round the other day and took Daisy out for an hour just so I could have a shower and get some stuff done.
You'll be fine, things will get easier and you'll become a whizz at managing everything!
plus, its easy to think you can just get everything done and then stress yourself out trying to do it all. The housework really wont destroy the house or your relationship if it doesnt get done for one day and dinner can be made later when the baby is asleep. Ive definitely learned that after 3 kids. i think these are things people talk about when they say it becaomes easier after your first, mainly because you learn to let go of the things that you have be doing for years and start to chill more
im sure all will be fine and at least you can come on here and shout at us during the day if you are getting stressed.
claire and Lara.
xxxxx
I read that babies sometimes can be settled by white noise/running water so this could be worth a go. I bring my baby into bathroom in his car seat when i shower and he looks content listening to water, also that way if they cry at least you can see they're physically okay and not panic!
You'll find ways to fit in housework eventually but for the moment eating and resting come first. It will all fall into place you'll be amazeed at how well you can cope, I was!
Best of luck xxxx
[Modified by: G-j-91 on May 26, 2010 08:36 AM]
Also - do try to get out at least once a day as that seems to help breed sanity.
Really didn't think I'd be this scared!
Good tip about bringing bubba into the bathroom, will def try that. Gonna get myself a better sling as the one I have, a gift, is a proper crotch dangled!
Hxx
Ruth xxx
PS I actually found it easier in some ways when my OH went back to work as Benjamin & I were able to get into our own routine!
One thing I would say is just make sure you are organised. Get your bottles sterilised first thing while hubby is still there, make sure you have enough nappies/wipes/outfits ready to hand for the whole day.
I also agree with getting out, even if it's just a 15 minute walk. Does Lucas sleep when he goes out for a walk in his pram? Oliver does so when I get back I leave him in there until he wakes up and get a few jobs done then.
I also agree about taking them in the bathroom!
H x