I think I must be a horrible friend! :(
I just found out that one of my friends, who started ttc at the same time as me has just fallen pregnant. I'm sitting here crying, but I am soo happy for her, but soo jealous too. I know this is normal to feel like this but I can't help feeling like a rubbish friend.
Sorry for the down post, just had to let it out.
xxx
Sorry for the down post, just had to let it out.
xxx
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but dont beat yourself up over it,have a good cry,your allowed and think mega positive ones for your bfp xxxx
Oh you aren't a horrible friend, I too have been faced with similar situations and you cant help the way you feel.
Yes you are happy for your friend but at the same time gutted for yourself and hubby because a baby is something that you both long for.
Dont beat yourself up hun, also I have a friend who is getting married in a few weeks and they are going to start trying straight after coming off the pill. I have convinced myself that she will fall pregnant before me and I dont know how I will cope with that but I will be happy for her at the same time. So I know too well how you feel and think its just a natural reaction.
Hope you get some good hugs off your hubby
xx
I do have a few friends though where it would not bother me at all. Strange! xx
You're not a rubbish friend, like the others have said you're sad for yourself. I panic all the time that people might be pg before me, not because it's a race but because I know how it will make me feel. We had abit of a dinner party Friday and a friend cancelled because she weren't well and I panicked thinking she might be pg. I have no idea why?! This whole ttc is making me crazy lol!
So your completely normal! At least I hope because if your not I'm not either
My best friend and I are both TTC at the mo - she wants me to get pg first as she already has a LO and thinks it would be unfair if she has 2 and I have none bless her! I want her to get pg because she is a fantastic mum.
So many of my old school friends are either pg or just given birth and quite a few accidents too which doesn't help my jealousy. It does upset me, it just doesn't seem fair. In 2008 at work we had 13 women either pg or on mat leave!! Now they are all going for round 2 and there are lots of newly weds like me who have made no secret of the fact they would start trying after marriage, so I know I may end up being upset again soon if they catch.
I'll stop rambling now! Basically, don't beat yourself up! Have a good cry and get it out there x
Believe me it doesnt end when you get pg, I was the first of my "close" friends to get pg but the jealousy is still there. I was unable to breastfeed for a number of reasons and I remember being distraught at the thought that my friends and my younger sister (who was pg) would be able to (and incidentally could) . Then you have the "baby progress competition", whose baby sleeps thru first, sits up alone first, walks, talks etc.
Sorry that was a ramble !! What i'm trying to say is cut yourself some slack ! XXX
Getting pregnant should be like the argos pick up system where you wait your turn having said that I'm usually buying the thing they can't find and end up waiting there ages while everyone comes and goes lol!
Me and hubby were saying that in a way being made to wait is much better than having it handed to you on a plate because it makes it all the more special when it does happen.
Wishing you lots of luck and baby dust
Xxx
I feel a stab of pain every time someone announces their pregnancy, be it on here or in "real time" but it's not jealousy, I'm so happy for them it just hits home that once again it wasn't me. xx
Huge ((((((((hugs)))))))) to all of you and hope we all get our bfps soon! xxxxx