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Stage?
Just wondering, do you think its possible that Elijah is having his clingy stage now? Lately hes cuddling me all the time, hanging on me, following me everywhere. Even when oh is here and tries to play with him, he just wants to be around me. He's never been like this before, always a Daddy's boy. We have always been really close, but i just mean he's never been so clingy before.
He never went through that stage EVER as a baby either, he never cried when i left or when oh left, he was just so happy to be around people. Never had that separation anxiety.
Also, he's quite aggressive to me too at times recently, he climbs all over me (which is so annoying!) hurts me and when I tell him to stop that isnt nice he just shouts and says "yes, it is nice!" Im not sure what sort of punishment is appropriate as he doesnt seem to listen when I tell him off. He has a star chart and doesnt get his stars if he doesnt behave well with certain things, but this isnt working for the aggressive behaviour.
I generally will give him a warning that he will go in time out if he does it again, but the behaviour always seems to have big gaps of time between it, so its always like im telling him off for separate incidents with no follow through. Im getting annoyed at myself for shouting I just wish he would listen and not hurt me! Hes also really bad at giving me ANY space whatsoever, just follows me around and its really frustrating to have no space, but i know this is prob just the age.
Perhaps its just all one big stage??! Any of yours doing similar things?? xxx
He never went through that stage EVER as a baby either, he never cried when i left or when oh left, he was just so happy to be around people. Never had that separation anxiety.
Also, he's quite aggressive to me too at times recently, he climbs all over me (which is so annoying!) hurts me and when I tell him to stop that isnt nice he just shouts and says "yes, it is nice!" Im not sure what sort of punishment is appropriate as he doesnt seem to listen when I tell him off. He has a star chart and doesnt get his stars if he doesnt behave well with certain things, but this isnt working for the aggressive behaviour.
I generally will give him a warning that he will go in time out if he does it again, but the behaviour always seems to have big gaps of time between it, so its always like im telling him off for separate incidents with no follow through. Im getting annoyed at myself for shouting I just wish he would listen and not hurt me! Hes also really bad at giving me ANY space whatsoever, just follows me around and its really frustrating to have no space, but i know this is prob just the age.
Perhaps its just all one big stage??! Any of yours doing similar things?? xxx
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As for the hitting etc, we also had this but when he did it I started saying no mummy doesn't like that, that makes mummy sad and I would pick him up off me and just place him next to me or something he'd say sorry and I'd talk to him about not doing it etc and it seems to have worked after awhile as he doesn't do it anymore (well rarely still can have his moments lol).
As for the hurting, I'm not really sure what to suggest, zachariah sometimes hurts me but it's definitely unintentional.
This is probably going to sound crazy but I'd seen this dog/puppy training thing and always thought it would work if need be. Basically when the dog bit the owner was meant to yelp/squeal in pain and put their back to the dog, the idea was it would make the dog acknowledge it was pain and not a game. I don't see why this wouldn't work with a child (well, in theory lol!
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