My baby won't look me in the eye
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Hi chaps,
feeling really low and want some advice on this and if any one is experiencing the same thing.
My little boy is nearly 10 weeks and it's been quite a struggle so far as he has reflux and colic, but i've persevered with ebf. Because of the reflux and the fact that he was breech and he will only look in one direction, i went to see a cranial osteopath yesterday. She noticed that he won't track objects with his eyes or make eye contact. She says it's pretty unusual for a baby of his age not to lock onto his mother as we're so vital to his survival! He also doesn't seem to have a blink reflex if you make a move close to his eyes. She said i needed to get his fields of vision checked and i left in tears, not knowing if he can see or not. Went to the dr yesterday who said she could see the issues and now i'm waiting for a referal to a pedeatrician. I think he can see, he does look at things, but it's like he's not that bothered about what he's seeing. He doesn't follow objects and seems indifferent to toys or rattles. He will smile but not at me, only at blank walls or the sofa! If i try to get his attention he seems to deliberately look away or just ignore me. I feel like he doesn't love me as i don't get a lot back from him. It's heartbreaking really. The dr says it's very difficult to tell at this stage, maybe we're just asking too much of him, but i'm so worried. If there's nothing wrong with his sight could it be an early sign of autism? Does anyone else with a 10 week old experience this, or has gone on to develop 'normally'? Or are your 10 week old babies all smiles and eye contact?? Please help.
feeling really low and want some advice on this and if any one is experiencing the same thing.
My little boy is nearly 10 weeks and it's been quite a struggle so far as he has reflux and colic, but i've persevered with ebf. Because of the reflux and the fact that he was breech and he will only look in one direction, i went to see a cranial osteopath yesterday. She noticed that he won't track objects with his eyes or make eye contact. She says it's pretty unusual for a baby of his age not to lock onto his mother as we're so vital to his survival! He also doesn't seem to have a blink reflex if you make a move close to his eyes. She said i needed to get his fields of vision checked and i left in tears, not knowing if he can see or not. Went to the dr yesterday who said she could see the issues and now i'm waiting for a referal to a pedeatrician. I think he can see, he does look at things, but it's like he's not that bothered about what he's seeing. He doesn't follow objects and seems indifferent to toys or rattles. He will smile but not at me, only at blank walls or the sofa! If i try to get his attention he seems to deliberately look away or just ignore me. I feel like he doesn't love me as i don't get a lot back from him. It's heartbreaking really. The dr says it's very difficult to tell at this stage, maybe we're just asking too much of him, but i'm so worried. If there's nothing wrong with his sight could it be an early sign of autism? Does anyone else with a 10 week old experience this, or has gone on to develop 'normally'? Or are your 10 week old babies all smiles and eye contact?? Please help.
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What did the Dr say at his 6 week check (I think they have them track an object)? I know it's so, so hard but I would try to keep an open mind until you see a specialist - this might just be 'normal' (!) for him.
K x
PS Come over and join the Born in April girls - our LOs are all the same age as yours xxx
My LO smiled at all sorts before he smiled at me so I wouldn't worry too much about that, he also really favoured one direction and would always look that way which meant of course he was looking away from me. I remember one day when I was feeling really down taking him to a baby massage class and all the other babies were gazing at their mothers and mine was gazing at the woman next to me!!!!! I started to get really upset thinking like you that he didn't love me which on reflection I thought because I was feeling low anyway.
When you breastfeed him does he look at you? Do you spend lots of time looking at him? Perhaps this could encourage him. I know because I work in it that Autism doesn't present itself in babies this young because all babies are in what is called the Autistic state anyway.
I would change your osteopath first off, she sounds like an insensitive practitioner and didn't really help you with any of your worries. Ask for a quick appointment to see paediatrician, say it's really getting you down and you feel you might be becoming depressed cos of it, I mentioned PND and was sent to see a specialist asap, I know it's a bit sly but where needs must and besides if you have to wait weeks on end it would be hard.
I think doc is right, everyone might be asking a lot from him as he has a lot going on already. Oh and there's no way on earth he doesn't love you or know that his survival depends on you, he cries for you doesn't he????? Osteopath is a prat!
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Where I originally posted when my son was diagnosed. Good luck
xx
Hope you get the answers you want from the paediatrician.
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