am i over reacting
ok so 6mnths ago i asked my hubby not to message this woman and he promised he wouldnt but i had a feeing he still was so did a bit of digging and hey presto had been chatting to her on facebook so i confronted him asked if he was txting her he said no and promised me he stopped when i asked. he got a contract phone a few months back and his bills have been really high so i looked at his bill online and there was a number that came up alot so i email this woman pretending to be him and aked for her no and guess what was it was her so i asked him out right if it was and he said no even said i was acting phyco and should tell the doc to see if i had postnatal depression even gave me a speach on how he couldnt take much more after i found it was her i even said to him about talking to hv about my'paranioa' and he was all up for it.
also looking on his bill he was txting her when i was in labour and the first person he txt when i sent him home was her and phoning her when i was in hosp.now the thing is i dont actully think he is having an affair but that aside he has lied to me for 6 months is getting us into debt by running up phone bills we cant afford by talking to her has ruined my memories of my labour and marred the day she was born made me question my sanity and clearly has no respect for me our family or our relationship.
am i over reacting? tell me honestly what would you do?please im in a complete state i have a 6 year old a 3 year old and a 6 week old
also looking on his bill he was txting her when i was in labour and the first person he txt when i sent him home was her and phoning her when i was in hosp.now the thing is i dont actully think he is having an affair but that aside he has lied to me for 6 months is getting us into debt by running up phone bills we cant afford by talking to her has ruined my memories of my labour and marred the day she was born made me question my sanity and clearly has no respect for me our family or our relationship.
am i over reacting? tell me honestly what would you do?please im in a complete state i have a 6 year old a 3 year old and a 6 week old
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I feel for you though, big hugs and I really hope he gives you a full explanation and apology. good luck xxxx
sorry ur having to face all this right now and i really hope he explains himself properly and doesn't try to back out of it.
take care chick xx
You have a family with this man and need to protect that, I would also call this woman and tell her to do one then follow this up with an email confirming everything you have said but do this without being insulting just tell her that its inapropriate for her to be contacting your husband and explain that their relationship will eventualy split your family up and that as a mother of three children you will do all you can to stop that from happening.
What has his reaction been when you blatantly pointed out all the texts? How did he justify it? What do you think their relationship is? How do they know each other? If they are old school friends or she has been in his life forever, then maybe it is innocent but IMO I doubt it.
I became friendly with a guy at work when I was living with someone. At the beginning I talked openly to my OH about my friendship with this guy but as the months went on, my OH got less interested, so I talked about him less. Our friendship continued and about 9 months later we kissed. It was a bolt from the blue, totally unexpected on my part but god, when it happened, I realised how much I wanted to be with him and eventually I left the guy I was with. I'm telling you this because it started innocently but it led elsewhere and I wouldn't give your OH chance to do the same! They obviously have something special for them to be in contact during your labour, etc. If he tries to pass it over as nothing, then I'd think he was lying.
I really am sorry but you have to be strong for your family, take care xx