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getting men to help - without moaning...!! tips please
very prejudiced post i am afraid
apologies to all the super daddys out there
hi all!!
back to work this week
dad at home to have little one
cue lots of moaning and groaning and arguing and sulking etc etc
apparently i criticise for explaining things and offering my opinion or how i would do it
he cant get that i do literally everything when he is at work, including getting up int h enight early mornings then tea, cleaning, bottles, cooking, washing blah blah blah...
i go to work and come to still have to clean up, do shopping, ring all the people i askled him to do during the day etc etc etc
sound familiar? any tips? this cant go on, theres a raging argument going to happen soon and we are not like that usually!
doesnt help that at 11 months little one v used to beingwith me all day and has started to wake in night, wont go down to sleep easily at night, i can see the impact its having and having a grumpy dad really isnt helping either...
help
stressed n upset
soon xxx
apologies to all the super daddys out there
hi all!!
back to work this week
dad at home to have little one
cue lots of moaning and groaning and arguing and sulking etc etc
apparently i criticise for explaining things and offering my opinion or how i would do it
he cant get that i do literally everything when he is at work, including getting up int h enight early mornings then tea, cleaning, bottles, cooking, washing blah blah blah...
i go to work and come to still have to clean up, do shopping, ring all the people i askled him to do during the day etc etc etc
sound familiar? any tips? this cant go on, theres a raging argument going to happen soon and we are not like that usually!
doesnt help that at 11 months little one v used to beingwith me all day and has started to wake in night, wont go down to sleep easily at night, i can see the impact its having and having a grumpy dad really isnt helping either...
help
stressed n upset
soon xxx
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hope you can reslove this, i know how frustrating it can get when people dont understand, one of our friends cant see why hubby cant look after LO when hes working from home all day! i have said he is welcome to have a go himself and i am sure he would soon change his mind!
He hates it when I 'tell him what to do' lol!
xx
Or do a planner, of things that have to be done in the week, including the days when you work, so he can see that you share all responsibilities. Withouth sounding horrible I do have to treat my hubby like a child sometimes! lol xx
One thing I've found from flat-sharing with men and women in the past: men will do the housework etc if they're told what they need to do via a list/rota, rather than nagging. They just need to see it in black and white and cross it off when it's done. Women are more complex (lol).
On the few occasions I have left LO with OH I write the routine down for him and it seems to work.
Getting him or other people to understand how hard it is day in day out is another matter. xxx