made to feel bad for working 4 days ;(
Well, I'm back to work in a week and half of me is looking forward to it and half of me is dreading it!
I'm going back 4 days a week and the amount of people that say to me 'oh what a shame you have to work so much' or 'really that is such so much'
One girl even said to me you shouldn't have kids if you have to work more than 2.5 days a week!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel bad enough as it is about leaving LO and wish we could afford for me to stay off another day but at the moment it's not feasable.
I've been off work 11 months so feel quite lucky about that and hoping to be pregnant agin next year some time.
Anyone else work 4 days or full time?
I'm going back 4 days a week and the amount of people that say to me 'oh what a shame you have to work so much' or 'really that is such so much'
One girl even said to me you shouldn't have kids if you have to work more than 2.5 days a week!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel bad enough as it is about leaving LO and wish we could afford for me to stay off another day but at the moment it's not feasable.
I've been off work 11 months so feel quite lucky about that and hoping to be pregnant agin next year some time.
Anyone else work 4 days or full time?
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sorry i cant offer advise what to say to perople other than ignoer it! x
You shouldn't be made to feel guilty at all, not even by yourself!
Hxx
I went back 5 days when my lo was 7 months old, she is a wonderfully confident, conversant little girl who is a pleasure to be around. We have fun filled weekends as we can afford to treat her as we both work full time.
Ignore them honey!
Don't feel bad, everyone's situation is different. x
It's other people from work and baby groups that make me feel bad, maybe i'll start telling them that I can't wait to go back!
I suppose I'm lucky that I don't need to leave for work until 8.15am and will be home by 5.15pm so will see him for a while am and pm.
thanks again
xx
[Modified by: nessie2 on July 10, 2010 09:30 PM]
People shouldn't comment if they don't know your personal cirumstances. xx
And I definitely cant wait to get back to work, I really enjoy it, I love my job, not as much as I love being a mum but I think I'm lucky that I can do both.
I also have never had any negative comments about bf or weaning, cloth nappies etc that many others have said they've had.
Maybe my reputation goes before me and they know I'd tell them what they can do with their opinion.
However, most of the comments are stopped as quick as they start as soon as I tell people that I love my job (im a primary teacher) and couldnt wait to get back as I value my career and dont want to fall out of practice for when I go back full time when the boys are at school! I dont know what position you are in, but I know more parents that work than not, and for most it's a necessity, rather than a choice. Im just lucky that I, personally, dont think I could be a stay at home mum.
I cherish my Fridays as I have a day with the boys when we can do things you cant normally do at the weekend, like walk around town without being stopped every second! lol. My main problem is that I dont see hubby when im at work as I work Mon-Thurs, 7.15 till about 5.15, and he works Wed-Sun 9am - 10pm (he's a chef). Does mean he can spend some quality time with the twins though, as he has them Mon and Tues.
Sorry, ive rambled, but just wanted to say that, in my experience, working parents are the norm.
Good Luck xxx
Gemma, Ryan and Alfie 9 months
This time ive registered as a childminder as my choice is this or working full time, which would hardly be worth with 3 kids in nursery.
I personally think kids that are in childcare any days a week benefit hugely from it. I used to see the difference in my kids daily especially compared to kids who are maybe looked after by granny. They are much more confident, enjoy mixing with other kids, clever with numbers/colours etc and generally outgoing.
If people used to comment to me about me working and the kids being in nursery i would just say that i agree that if i won the lottery it would be lovely to be at home all day, however, my kids love nursery and thrive on it and it actually does them good. That shuts them up
Gemm x