Potty Training nightmare-help!!!
Help! My son turned 3 in April and I can't get him out of nappies! He has a speech delay which I suppose is why we waited until he was closer to 3 before we attempted to start potty training.
I started with the softly softly approach (oh dear did you have a little accident) and the supposedly stress free way of putting pants on for an hour at a time and then switching back to a nappy. This didn't work as he just held it in until he got the nappy on again.
I'm past the softly softly approach now and i'm shouting at him when he has an accident because he knows he needs to go-he holds on until he is ready to burst-even when you put him on the potty and run water he still holds it in-and then five minutes later he is soaking and there is a puddle on the floor.
I've also tried bribing him with toys/bubbles/dvds etc, which gets him motivated for all of a day and then its just back to the same routine.
I've also left him in his wet bottoms for a while too but it still doesn't stop him from doing it again.
He starts nursery in September, and its so important that he goes-he needs to as it will help him with his speech and get him used to communicating with other kids but if I can't sort out the potty training soon he won't be able to go.
I'm desprate and at my wits end-can anyone give me a magical solution???
I started with the softly softly approach (oh dear did you have a little accident) and the supposedly stress free way of putting pants on for an hour at a time and then switching back to a nappy. This didn't work as he just held it in until he got the nappy on again.
I'm past the softly softly approach now and i'm shouting at him when he has an accident because he knows he needs to go-he holds on until he is ready to burst-even when you put him on the potty and run water he still holds it in-and then five minutes later he is soaking and there is a puddle on the floor.
I've also tried bribing him with toys/bubbles/dvds etc, which gets him motivated for all of a day and then its just back to the same routine.
I've also left him in his wet bottoms for a while too but it still doesn't stop him from doing it again.
He starts nursery in September, and its so important that he goes-he needs to as it will help him with his speech and get him used to communicating with other kids but if I can't sort out the potty training soon he won't be able to go.
I'm desprate and at my wits end-can anyone give me a magical solution???
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If you contact your hv or surestart they can arrange for a nursery nurse to come and visit you to help (although this didnt work for us).
I have been to his preschool meeting today and the teacher said that there was 6 children still in nappies last September and they are all dry now. I have also spoken to the hv and she said if he isnt sorted after 4 weeks in nursery to go back for further assessments.
My advice - and believe me I have been there (9 weeks with no nappy and not one wee or poo on the nappy) Is to back off. You're probally getting yourself stressed, him stressed and not enjoying each other. Tell him everybody poo's and wee's and it should go into the loo and leave it at that.
He might just shock you and start using it once the pressure is off, if not when he sees all his mates at nursery doing it he will probally go for it.
Just remember, its not that unusual and you're not doing anything wrong. Good luck xxx
We went to the pre school induction and they definitely don't take children who are not toilet trained, in fact the kids are expected to go to the toilet on their own without any adult help. I can understand their reasons for this afterall we have all seen the news and heard of how children in these environments have been exploited.