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Calling all mummys who had prem babas!
Hi girls,
just a quick question as it's driving me
alittle mad!
You know u all say to count your little ones
by their "due date" not their actual age for
development etc...
My question is:
when people ask "ahh how old is your little one?"
do you say their actual age?or their due date
age?
It's driving me mad the amount of people who
ask when I am out and I've been saying 10wks
and they are like "oh...right...she's very small"
then I have to go into the whole story that she's
prem and is size/weight/development 6weeks old.
Could I just say she is 6weeks?
But then if they ask when she was born and
I say May do you think they will think "
crazy women?"
is really small thing but is really bugging me!
just a quick question as it's driving me
alittle mad!
You know u all say to count your little ones
by their "due date" not their actual age for
development etc...
My question is:
when people ask "ahh how old is your little one?"
do you say their actual age?or their due date
age?
It's driving me mad the amount of people who
ask when I am out and I've been saying 10wks
and they are like "oh...right...she's very small"
then I have to go into the whole story that she's
prem and is size/weight/development 6weeks old.
Could I just say she is 6weeks?
But then if they ask when she was born and
I say May do you think they will think "
crazy women?"
is really small thing but is really bugging me!
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My DD was born at 32 weeks weighing 3lb 3oz and now is almost 10 months old and is still in 0-3 month clothing and weighs under 14lb
When asked her age i say her actual age, i then do get strange looks (as if people are thinking 'she's small' ) but unless people say anything i don't say anything about her being early.
However her being so tiny did work to my advantage the other day as we went to Monkey Bizz and under 6 months get in free, the lady at the desk just asumed that as she was so small she was under 6 months and let us in for free!! I wonder how many time we can go back before she notices!! lol.
xx
It is literally in the last month or so at 21 months old that I know just say Skye's age and don't feel the need to explain!! She's chronologically doing everything she should now, and with me being only a touch over 5 foot she's not destined to be tall anyway!
For some things I always just used Skye's corrected age, as it meant I could get into music/soft play cheaper, like shezakeza, and when she was small she was obviously developing on her corrected age.
Go with what makes you comfortable I guess? I always convinced myself I'd just say Skye's corrected age to save the explaining, but for some reason found that I had to say her real age, it felt kind of "wrong" to say her corrected age, after all, it wasn't when she was born!!
Sorry if I waffled!
DD was born at 32 weeks and i just told them her actual age then explain that she was nearly 8 weeks prem.
like posy said there were so many other people that had prems too or knew someone who had. although i was told by one woman that she was 5 months early!!! and another was 2 months late!!!!!
again like skye, when people ask her age no one seems to bat an eyelid now at 21 months. like posy im just a touch over 5 foot and not very big myself so no seems to expect her to be a giant rugby player
Now she is 3 i don't need to do that anymore but i do sometimes pretend she is 2 to get in somewhere for free!
She started walking at 16 months and strangers would be amazed as she only looked about 8 months. so that was quite funny.
The number of people who said "Oh she is so small" when i told them her age! Really, i hadn't noticed.
Don't worry about what others think. if you don't want the odd looks or having to explain it all, just tell them her corrected age.
amelia was just under 35 weeks and was 5lb 5. She gained weight very slowly and was (and still is) teeny tiny. i always gave her real age and just added..she was 6 weeks prem!
People are just curious.
My Dr always plotted her on her chart as corrected. If she was 8 weeks then he would plot her as 2 weeks otherwise she was underweight hugely.
d xxx