How do you cope? How do you honestly manage?
My LO is 11 months old today and im looking for part time work but there just isnt any around o i was wondering how difficult or hard it would be to go back full time?
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[Modified by: StephS on 09 August 2010 21:32:45 ]
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Maybe change the title to 'mums who work full time', as I thought you meant mums who are at home full time. xxx
[Modified by: coco25 on August 09, 2010 09:24 PM]
I'm going back 4 days, part of me is actually looking forward to it as I love my job but the practicalities of it make my brain hurt. Just trying to get LO organised for 1 day when I went in the office was a major mission.
Only solution....get a maid
Joking - I will have to become super organised though.
I do find it hard- I work all day and then have my daughter to look after and a house to try and keep some level of tidy, and to be honest I don't get much help
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I went back 4 days a week last month and I know it's not quite the same as full time but I find it not too bad.
I'm enjoying my work but do miss LO lot's but as the weeks go on I find myslef not thinking about him every second!
I am quite tired but I try to be super organised. My LO is in bed by 6.30pm so that gives me time to cook
My OH often tidies as I cook or clean.
i try to set a task for each night, such as Mondays are ironing etc.
I would say it's not so bad as I've also just started going back to aerobics twice a week in the evenings too, to get me out of the house and this has given me more energy as well.
good luck
It's hard, my house is a mess, I'm tired and I have endless guilt at leaving her but I manage!
Our superhero power as women is the ability to adapt to whatever life throws at us.
I come home from work and spend most of that time playing, When she goes to bed I start on the housework but some nights I think sod it and watch TV or read a book.
You will figure it out hun! Good luck
L
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As much as i enjoyed working 3 days and having Ollie the other 2, i havent noticed too much of a difference. I hate leaving him and going to work, but i know i have to do it for him to have a good life. Plus it allows me time away and i can honestly say i feel good going to work as its something thats mine. Yes i talk about Ollie and the children always ask about him, but working gives me the freedom to do my thing. Its almost made me a better parent, i love spending time with him after work, im always playing with him and i enjoy the time i spend with him. Whilst i loved maternity leave i began to get a little bored and resentful. I wouldnt always play with Ollie and i lost motivation to do fun stuff with him. Now, he plays with other children at nursery, spends time with his Grandparents and cousins AND he gets Mummy & Daddy in evenings and at weekends who do so much stuff with him. We make sure the weekends are about family time, been taking him to soft play, play parks etc.
I must add i do cheat slightly and have family friend come and clean for me every other week. It just helps with the housework etc. I still do a clean, just every so often and it means im not tied to cleaning every week.
Ive tried to make sure im super organised so work doesnt get in the way of Ollie time. Its actually shown me i think i thrive on being busy.....i never thought that was me before having a baby!
It is hard Steph, but if you can be organised and know your doing it for a better life for you, JJ and hubby you'll do just fine xxxxx
I must say that I do have a cleaner who does ironing too, and I wouldn't be without her. Fortunately, we can afford to keep her, and it does make an enormous difference.
I just find that i need to be massively organised. A massive calendar is a must for all dates and appointments otherwise I would forget as there is so much going on in my head!
Like I organise what we will wear in advance so that (and I know this is going to sound silly), I am able to put on and dry a load of reds and pinks before my lovely ironing lady comes so I know that will be ironed for the next week. Lo and I wear different tops with red in them for 3 days in a row, and then wears different tops with blue in them for 3 days in a row, and then green tops so that I can organise doing full loads at regular intervals! Ha ha.
I do my supermarket shopping on line and have it delivered every week really early in the morning so that it is out of the way.
I buy so much other stuf in bulk like I will buy loads of cards cheap from places like The Book People, and loads of childrens books from there or from red house and I have them in the cupbaord so that there are always birthday presents for other kids at home ready throughout the year.
I do loads of on line shopping for lo's clothes and shoes. I cook in bulk and freese things and take something out of the freezer before I go to work on my working days so that dinner is more or less sorted (just bung it in the oven) when I get home.
That kind of thing.
And then we have lots of time to spend at weekends and on my other days together! We really enjoy swimming, the park, beach, soft play, meeting up with friends, simply having our lunch out and getting the train home (lo is obsessed by all things train and station related) ...
Good luck with whatever you decide x
Best of luck x