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ungrateful rant coming up.
I have an brilliant relationship with my parents, in my last few weeks of pregnancy I was at theirs almost everyday while hubby was at work.
Since ds was born I still go to theirs 2/3 times a week. They are looking after ds in a few weeks while hubby and I are away for the weekend.
He is their first grandchild so they have gone mad on toys and things for him but I'm getting really annoyed that everything we buy him the buy something similar to keep at theirs.
Before he was born a friend gave us a bottle steriliser, bouncer, travel cot and moses basket which we had already got so we gave them to mum to keep at theirs, we brought him a playarch which he loves so we gave them his old playgym so he had something to play with when he is there. That seems to have opened the flood gates. We have brought him a inflatable doughnut thing, a walker and a fisherprice rainforest open top swing (which he will of grown out of in the next few months). Yesterday mum phoned to say she had brought him a inflatable doughnut to keep at hers.
That was fine, then today she asked if we wanted to go with her to collect a walker she had brought. Sure I thought getting abit annoyed. And then when we got there as a "suprise" she has also brought a huge fisherprice rainforest swing to keep at hers. When we got home she commented to my dad that she thinks she has a replica of everything we have now.
I know I'm being ungrateful but its really starting to annoy me. I guess they can use it for the future granchildren too but I feel really flat and down about it.
Since ds was born I still go to theirs 2/3 times a week. They are looking after ds in a few weeks while hubby and I are away for the weekend.
He is their first grandchild so they have gone mad on toys and things for him but I'm getting really annoyed that everything we buy him the buy something similar to keep at theirs.
Before he was born a friend gave us a bottle steriliser, bouncer, travel cot and moses basket which we had already got so we gave them to mum to keep at theirs, we brought him a playarch which he loves so we gave them his old playgym so he had something to play with when he is there. That seems to have opened the flood gates. We have brought him a inflatable doughnut thing, a walker and a fisherprice rainforest open top swing (which he will of grown out of in the next few months). Yesterday mum phoned to say she had brought him a inflatable doughnut to keep at hers.
That was fine, then today she asked if we wanted to go with her to collect a walker she had brought. Sure I thought getting abit annoyed. And then when we got there as a "suprise" she has also brought a huge fisherprice rainforest swing to keep at hers. When we got home she commented to my dad that she thinks she has a replica of everything we have now.
I know I'm being ungrateful but its really starting to annoy me. I guess they can use it for the future granchildren too but I feel really flat and down about it.
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i think it's lovely that they want to buy things but i would prefer that they bought different things, or maybe even asked an opinion. the opinion bit especially as my mum insists on buying anything thats a really good offer without ever consulting me and OH (even if its for us to keep at ours!) this especially annoyed us when she went out and bought a walker even though we specifically said we were going to buy a certain one that my OH had fallen in love with. so now it stays at my mums as i told her we wanted a specific one so she would just have to keep it. she's currently doing the same about the fact i want a smart trike...i don't care if asda do one and it's on offer/you get discount or whatever, i want the sodding pink one from ELC and i don't care if it's twice the price thats the one i'm bloody well buying! argh! lol
sorry that turned into a massive rant there when i only meant to tell you i understood how you felt!
They're probably doing it so LO feels secure and happy at theirs and you don't have to worry about taking anything with you.
Sorry you're feeling down...it's funny the things that start to annoy you huh?
Hxx
like you say you do appreciate it, it just gets to be a little bit much when it's everything under the sun they buy xx
Hugs xxx
Sounds like your patents are at the other end of the spectrum! Xx
I know what you mean but at the same time I think your mum and dad are just enjoying their first grandchild as most parents do! It's great Riley has all of his things and will feel so comfy at their house, especially if you spend a lot of time over there.
I'm going to my mum's house next week for a month (we live abroad as you know) and she's literally bought everything again so we don't have to take anything but ourselves. I felt a bit funny about it at first mainily because I don't want her spending my inheritance (joke!). No, but I did feel funny about her spending so much cash until one day she said that it's her money and if she can't spoil her now when she's too little to become a brat, when can she? Just try to think of it like that and thank god you don't have to trail things around!
Hope you feel better and more upbeat soon xxxxxxxxxx
Im not belittling your rant at all, everyone has a right to speak and if you feel this way then nothing anyone can say will make a difference. Hope you feel better about it all soon xxx
if it makes you feel any better my mil never comes to ours never phones even when my son had pnuemonia (she did phone) but not once in the 5 weeks when it was bad came to visit (2min max car journey away and doesn't work) my own mother i see about once a week for an hour to 2 hours max during this time she will catch up on phone calls with the boyfriend she has just left or friends, we have a very strained relationship and we are both trying hard but since she left our house with 1st d*ck and then had a breakdown she is not the same person its like she'll do things but only with an audience as in 'look at me im a great granny' like give us ??100 for the christening which was lovely but when her 5 month old grandson is in front of her in his walky and moaning a bit to get up (i was in the kitchen) and ended up coming into the living room and saying 'mum you can lift him' her response was oh I know I was just finishing my cup of tea???!!! WTF i'd love to finish a cup of tea during the day lol its like she has no proper maternal instinct, so while yours may annoy you its better than nothing at all (not a competition lol as i'd prob get annoyed in your shoes too but would be nice for something worhtwhile from either grannys lol)
She just loves her grandson, thats what I tell myself when she gets excited and buys him things that I want to get him and i'd never swap her she's an amazing grandma and I think its my issue.
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On the other hand my MIL is complete opposite and yes she buys loads and loads of toys for the girls but stuff she keeps there is totally different from what we have at home so that they don't get bored with the same stuff and when they go and see Granny and Grandad they can play with the "new" toys that they haven't seen for a while!
Maybe you could politely suggest that she buys things that are different so that little man doesn't get can enjoy new toys instead of just playing with same ones he has every day at home? Maybe make the point that he will love it as he gets older as he will have lots of exciting "new" toys to play with when he comes to see his Grandparents.
And moonbeam when I read this thread I told hubby im buying him a rain mac next time im in town before she finds one on offer as its my other thing (I have lots, firsts are doubly important to me I think) he reassured me the wellies she's got are far too big for him and will be for ages so I can still get him his first pair, and you know what they will be full price ones too
xxxxx
lol grizzlwchops
dylans mum these come with a presentation box ' my first wellies
http://www.babynotincluded.co.uk/out--about-28-c.asp if you search under the actual maker different sites sell different ones, amazon have wee dinosaur ones with the box too !!
i went there for my huneynoon (we brought ds1 with us much to my oh delight lol) it was really lovely i'd love to go back again some day x