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more annoying comments from mum..
Hi Girls
Some of you may have read about the annoying comments I have had so far from various people, my mum and dad being the worst becasue they lost 4 babies prematurely ( 2 at 20 weeks 2 at 30 weeks) and I was born at 28 weeks but survived!!
I understand that they have bad experiences, but mum gave birth to me, and to my brother and sister after me, I have friends who have miscarried, as have I in the early stages and we have simply focussed on the babies we have (and in my case the healthy baby I am carrying).
I am as low risk as you can get, and keep telling mum that I'm completely different to her and that I do understand her experience and comfort her..
But literally its all the time, "we can't buy anything" its bad luck, and if we do go and help you buy a travel system "what happens if you lose the baby, can you get a refund?".
I know you have to keep an open mind, but honestly its kind of crushing my pregnancy experience as my folks just can't get excited for me, not until the baby comes out healthy.
RARRHH!!
Some of you may have read about the annoying comments I have had so far from various people, my mum and dad being the worst becasue they lost 4 babies prematurely ( 2 at 20 weeks 2 at 30 weeks) and I was born at 28 weeks but survived!!
I understand that they have bad experiences, but mum gave birth to me, and to my brother and sister after me, I have friends who have miscarried, as have I in the early stages and we have simply focussed on the babies we have (and in my case the healthy baby I am carrying).
I am as low risk as you can get, and keep telling mum that I'm completely different to her and that I do understand her experience and comfort her..
But literally its all the time, "we can't buy anything" its bad luck, and if we do go and help you buy a travel system "what happens if you lose the baby, can you get a refund?".
I know you have to keep an open mind, but honestly its kind of crushing my pregnancy experience as my folks just can't get excited for me, not until the baby comes out healthy.
RARRHH!!
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hi,
Parents....hey....they think they are doing the right thing, but sometimes they just dont.......
You are still their little girl and they just don't want the hurt that they went through....
have you actually tried to talk to them to say that although you understand they have your feelings at heart that it is started you get you down....
perhaps you could buy stuff and just hide it away so that don't know you have brought it....
xxxx
Having had a mmc which was discovered at the 12 week scan, I can empathise with how she must feel, but to be so negative (especially to her own daughter!) during someone else's pregnancy is just not on. There has to come a point where you put your bad experiences behind you and accept that you were unlucky but that doesn't mean that everyone else will be unlucky too.
I admit that yes, sometimes even now I worry that I am jinxing this baby, but you can't live your life like that - you can't live in fear forever. I think your mum needs to understand that.
Does she realise how much it upsets you?