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Giving up bfing :(
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Well I have finally decided on my give up date monday 6th September, ds2 will be a few days over 6 months, as much as I've ranted about not being able to give him a bottle the though of htis actually makes me feel sick I wonder will it also be the last time I ever see his wee eyes roll with pleasure, will he feel I have abandonned (sp?) him in some way will we ever get that we close time back I have already cried I don;t know how many times so God knows what I'll be like when it comes to it.
As it stands he still won't take a bottle or anything more than 1 or 2 sips from a cup which is worrying me, I was thinking that for his night time feed I coul dgive him a wee bowl of readybrek, has any one else given a supper from this early age I feel so cheated in a way that my bfing experience, as lovely as it was, was so hard (not that any one elses wasn't) but unable to express and then result of refusal of bottle has just made me feel trapped and many times I have actually hated it I wish it had worked out better so that I could have had a wee break now and again as I very much think I would have happily continued but on the other hand I know that it is a 'good' time to stop as he is eating well and still young enough to hopefully adapt well.
god im gutted xx
As it stands he still won't take a bottle or anything more than 1 or 2 sips from a cup which is worrying me, I was thinking that for his night time feed I coul dgive him a wee bowl of readybrek, has any one else given a supper from this early age I feel so cheated in a way that my bfing experience, as lovely as it was, was so hard (not that any one elses wasn't) but unable to express and then result of refusal of bottle has just made me feel trapped and many times I have actually hated it I wish it had worked out better so that I could have had a wee break now and again as I very much think I would have happily continued but on the other hand I know that it is a 'good' time to stop as he is eating well and still young enough to hopefully adapt well.
god im gutted xx
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I can't help in anyway but I hope it all goes ok! I'm scared of giving up too (when I go back to work at 9 months) I hope to still do morning and night feed but it upsets me that I won't be there for him during the day and he'll have to have a bottle!
Sending you lots of hood luck sweetie!! Xxx
I was told that his refusal means he doesnt really want it.
I eventually hope to stop at around 10months but have been advised to keep gonig at mo as he doesnt eat anything else.
Have you been cutting down on your feeds gradually or are you going cold turkey?
Good luck with whatever you decide to do and remember you have already given so much goodness through persisting and a lot of hard work.
I really do hope it all goes ok, and that you feel ok within yourself. It was hard when I gave up bf, but mainly because I felt guilty for stopping.
You really have given him the best start in life, and should be sooo proud of yourself!
Can't offer any advice, but you know us girlies in bimc, are always here for you xxx
I am in the same position as you, I will be giving Alex his last BF this weekend, and am so sad about it.
I have found it a bit easier as he has started refusing boob, so its been his decision to stop and we have been weaning him off his boob feeds gradually over the last 2 weeks, he is 6 months next week and I feel so proud of myself to have got this far, adn you should be really proud too.
I will miss feeding him so much and the first night OH gave him a bottle at bedtime I cried but its just part of them growing up I guess, dont know who im trying to convince you or me lol
Not got any advice about the bottles but hopefully he will realise he has to get his food from somewhere.
Good luck stopping lovely, and I am here if you need to chat x
Kelly x
my dd wouldnt take a bottle or anything either.. have you tried the MAM ultivent bottles?? they are the only one my breastfed dd would drink from and i even combination fed for a while.
you will still get the rolling eyes dont you worry!
why dont you just give him solids/bottle in the day and still have your breastfeed at bedtime, this is what i did for a month and it helped my boobs not get so engorged!
good luck with it all darlin, we are all here for you!
babybump lol i'll convince you and you me eh?! xxx
lucyah yeah have the mam ulivent they have been most effective in that i have on a few occasions managed to get an ounce into him, i was considering bedtime feed but to be honest i think this will just confuse him as in no your not getting boobs all day but yeah ok u can have it now, i think the way he us with thebottle it has to be a cold turkey affair although i have been gradually reducing my feeds as would happen naturally when weaning xx
pb, aaom and 2lm thanks v much i am really [leased withh myself for keeping it up think too it is a case of accepting he is starting to grow he'll be in school in no time wwwwwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh!!
calleigh i didn;t know you couldn't express either my hv says that some women need their baby to stimulate their milk and the pump isn;t enough and right enough when reece goes on the let down takes a good few minutes before it comes. I think if I dont do it I never will I'm trying to break the sleeping on me to sleep habit and know this will be harder the older he gets too so just gonna bite the bullet (I think I may chicken out or just keep a nighttime and morning feed for a while depending on how i feel lol if its too much for me to stop i might do this and see how he goes at nap time with no bf'ds and may be then eventually drop the bedtime and morning??? oh its so emotionally (sp?) draining i was feeding him tonight and just looking at his contented we face and the tears were starting, I am so soppy!
the best thing is it when moving from boob to bottle if your combination feeding there is alot less chance of baby becoming constipated as your still giving him breastmilk, then once his little tummy is used to it he wont need breastmilk to help his stomach.
just rememeber that if you give him bottles in the day just to offer a little bit of water every now and then to keep him regular too
Archie is coming up 22 weeks and for us to be still bfing is amazing, give yourself a huge pat on the back honey xxx