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Furious - but not sure its my place
well not so much furious just really really sad. A guy at works girlfriend is pregnant and they have already had one abortion in the 8 months they have been together and she had her 12 week scan today. Everything was fine but she has decided she is not ready and wants another abortion. It is happening on tuesday. i think that abortion has its place but its the flippancy that gets me, "we are going to get rid of it" was the wording and i just wanted to throttle them. We are desperately trying tcc2 and failing again and i seriously want to ram their heads into the wall to try and make them see sense - use a flipping condom.
I think about that perfect little baby and hope it doesnt hurt when they end its life - do you think it does - cant get it out of my head
I think about that perfect little baby and hope it doesnt hurt when they end its life - do you think it does - cant get it out of my head
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I'm not sure but I hope they don't feel any pain. Poor little mite.
I know I will be strung up for saying this but I hope that when the selfish little witch does finally feel ready to have children she can't.
It may be the wrong thing to say, but I absolutely agree with you lottieNH x
How very immature of those two people. And to broadcast it too...?
I mean, it is her body. Her decision. No, you don't have to agree with it or like it - but you cannot force someone like that can you?
But, like you said, you are TTC - and they are so open about their decision. It is very disrespectful.
I never, ever would treat life (or "getting rid" of life) with such carelessness.
And twice now in the 8 months they have been together is just inexcusable. IMO abortions shouldn't be allowed that late just because they don't want it (I obviously understand sometimes there are exceptional circumstances - but just because they aren't ready is not good enough.)
It's not hard, use a frigging condom (scuse the wording)
We can't use anything bar condoms, if one broke I would take the morning after pill, the morning after, even though it gives me thrush. We have plenty of sex and have for years and haven't fallen pregnant bar in the two months we tried, condoms work, can't understand why people don't use them!
Grr
I could rant on but I'll end up getting into a rage - pair of dicks
I think it's very sad, in my area of work I meet people who do this all the time, one woman actually told me that as she saw it abortion was free, why should she pay for condoms, I was livid, you can get every type of contraception free including condoms from a nurse at your GP's or at tue family planning centre!
I think that the laws on abortion need to be reviewed so that people don't take advantage!
I still struggle to come to terms with the fact that in this country abortion is legal up to 24 weeks (obviously if mothers life is at risk or there is something wrong with the baby that is a very different thing and shouldn't be called abortion but medical intervention)
When I miscarried at 20 weeks and have to go through labour to give birth to a perfect just small baby boy I struggle to understand how anyone could put themselves through it when carrying a healthy baby!
Just my opinion, I do honestly believe abortion has it's place, but not after you've seen your healthy baby dancing around at 12 week scan!
Becky
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Saying that, i dont know them and i dont know the story behind their decision. I guess its their life and their decision - as sad as it is....
I'm sorry you have to deal with them summer, I can see that it must be an upsetting situation for you to have to hear about.
At 12 weeks the baby won't feel any pain. I sort of view abortion as a socially necessary evil, but in this case I could comfort myself that at least that baby won't have to be born to such utter pillocks of 'parents'.
stupid horrible people!!
I djust dont understand it as she told all her family at christmas. He said that at the last abortion which was early and they both agreed it was too early (grrrrr use a condom) she told people that she had a miscarriage which makes me even more mad.
I fell pregnant with my DD less than 3 months into a relationship because my Pill failed. It was quite terrifying, but I was determined to go it alone and raise her as a single parent if her dad didn't stand by me.
Luckily he did and he is now my husband and we have another child. So sometimes it all works out well in the end!