Smirked at.. am I wrong?
I feel like I being made out to be a fraud! This is why..
I describe my 2hr 30min labour as a traumatic birth!
So many people ask my birth story and seem to smirk when I describe it as traumatic, they seem to suggest that short is lucky and long is traumatic.
My first born was a 7hr labour, gas and air, vaginal delivery. All in all a good birth!
2nd born, dd.. Started with dramatic, sudden full blown contractions 3mins apart.. My body went into complete shock.. I didnt get a chance to get used to a build up of pain. I was sick, shaking and in unconsolable agony. Ambulance called, waters broke on way, and she arrived not long after. Post birth I heammarahed too.
Am I wrong to say this was a traumatic birth, really? Id of much prefered my7hr or longer one instead!
I describe my 2hr 30min labour as a traumatic birth!
So many people ask my birth story and seem to smirk when I describe it as traumatic, they seem to suggest that short is lucky and long is traumatic.
My first born was a 7hr labour, gas and air, vaginal delivery. All in all a good birth!
2nd born, dd.. Started with dramatic, sudden full blown contractions 3mins apart.. My body went into complete shock.. I didnt get a chance to get used to a build up of pain. I was sick, shaking and in unconsolable agony. Ambulance called, waters broke on way, and she arrived not long after. Post birth I heammarahed too.
Am I wrong to say this was a traumatic birth, really? Id of much prefered my7hr or longer one instead!
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I think your first labour sounds ideal- you had time to get used to what was happening but not too much time. Quite like mine (except I ended up with pethidine)- 1 hour per cm (from established labour at 4cm) plus an hour for pushing
I really don't think people can judge you on something like that- quick is not always considered best xx
My second daughter i had been uncomfortable all day, i went to the hospital they didnt believe i was in labour and i hadnt dialated, so they were going to keep me in for an hour. Within 10 minutes of my examination i was gripped by immense pain and tightenings. They decided to admit me to the deliver suite 'as i wasnt dealing with the pain very well' I got on to the ward at 6pm by 6.50pm i had given birth to my 9lb 9oz daughter with no pain relief!! I was seriously painful and from my point of view more traumatic than my first birth that had been plagued with complications. I can well imagine your 2.5 hour labour was very traumatic for you!
Ignore those people that smirk Palmtree!!
xxx
I think I did go into shock a bit after my first was born, and that was with a straightforward labour, and all in hospital so I didn't have to worry about getting there.
In my opinion of course a short labour can be traumatic, and like someone else has said, if you think it was then it was - you were the one who went through it and no-one can totally understand someone else's labour. With a quick labour there's no build up, no time to get your head around it before baby arrives, and there are a lot of 'what ifs' going around your mind afterwards.
Well I know which one I would prefer honey!!!
Im sick of this competition in pregnancy/birth. Why do we do it to each other? Everyone is an individual and if you feel it was traumatic (which i agree with) then it was traumatic.
http://www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk/what_is_trauma.htm
I had a very long labour, but it's a brief period of about an hour that went completely tits up which has scarred me for life.
No one else experienced exactly what you went through, so they should keep their ignorant judgements to themselves!
B xx
I personally beleive that no one, no matter how many children they have, has the right to tell you what is and is not painfull regarding childbirth. Every woman's periods are different too and we dont pss judgement when the woman next to us is crying with pain every month whilst we soar through ours and still make a spinning class (I don't BTW...I can't even do that on a normal day haha) so I don't see labour as any different. The same way I don't understand woman's constant reliance on natural birthing and doing it on your own. Why suffer something that is a once in a lifetime experience for the sake of being able to say you did it on your own??? Obviously there are limitations in that statement such as the effects on bubba which in that case, I understand but still, unneccessary pain IMO is pointless..
Dont worry hun, the next time someone smirks at you and says thats nothing you tell them to push a watermelon out their ass in 2 hours and see what they say then