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would this annoy you?
i got a text from MIL yesterday asking if we were free this week, we are going to be out everyday so i said we were not free until next week and arranged a visit with her, last night hubby recieved a phonecall at nearly 10! (highly inappropriate considering she knows the phone goes off upstairs!)arranging a visit to hers at the weekend, i am so annoyed she has gone behind my back, it is the first weekend in ages i am not working and wanted to spend it with my little family, i was so cross with him for not checking with me first, he said it didnt matter as i would be in bed anyway (i am on nights friday) but i would be up by lunchtime and there gonna be over there most of the afternoon i am so cross!
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I think being undermined would infuriate me more than the having to visit. My MIL used to put my husband in compromising positions until I stamped that right out! xx
I would get OH to phone her back and say he didn't realise she had already spoken to you and that plans have been made for the week after so tough titty (obvioulsy dont say that lol)
Why did she even bother to ask you in the first place if she was just going to go over your head?
Did you watch that series that was on a little while ago called Little House???!!! If you did you'll know why I mentioned it lol!!!
I think moonbeams idea is the best one really. Just get him to phone her back and say that the plans you made with her would be more suitable and thats that.
My OH would say the same about me being asleep tbh and although its all fair and well saying that youll be asleep so hell go over in the morning I know for a fact that Id be up and waiting for them coming back, only to be told MIL had cooked dinner and theyd been invited to stay or something like that so it would ruin the day anyway.
Plus, its valentines weekend this week so thats yet another reason why he should say no!
I also have to say I wouldn't be impressed if my hubby invited anyone round while I was in bed - I don't know how you feel about this as presumably you do nights fairly regularly, but I know I would be disturbed by there being people downstairs, and that's not fair. When ds was a newborn I'd go to bed in the evenings to catch up on sleep (so I could function, not because I wanted to) and MIL and BIL would come round and be noisy, and cuddling my baby when I couldn't! - and it was the main thing I wanted to be different when dd was born.
I agree your hubby should phone and tell her he didn't realise you'd already got plans - even if they are for a quiet weekend! If you go along with it she might think you were lying about not being free and will continue to go to him rather than you to get her own way in the future. If she is 'innocent' and didn't mean to undermine you, she'll be understanding!
My mil is similar - really gets on my nerves!!
I would tell your hubby to cancel, or take yourself and the little one else where so she can visit her son - but as you told her already, you are notfree til next week!! She wouldn't do it again
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problem is hubby wont say no hes a right mummys boy! hes the biggest problem as she knows she can get round him! just like a child playing off mum and dad! and i know i will just end up cross for the afternoon when he dordles back with a grumpy tired baby that i have to deal with for the evening! he goes swimming on a sat morning with DS so he'll be tired and hungry when they go over there, if she was coming here i could tell her to piss of myself but they are going to her as i dont allow visitors when i'm sleeping as its hard enough with just hubby and DS
i also found out today that at DS's birthday party she told one of my friends she was a lazy mum if her girl was not fully potty trained before 18 months, if i had heard that heads would have rolled! gggrrrr