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when labour starts
just wondering what people plan regarding letting family and friends know. i have decided not to tell anyone untill my LO's out, however i have recieved neg feedback from people who want to know when i go into hospital.
am i the only person who doesn't want people knowing as soon as labour starts?????
am i the only person who doesn't want people knowing as soon as labour starts?????
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I think my advice would be, if you are certain that's what you are going to do, make sure everyone knows so no one feels like it's just them being left out and stick to it. If they get upset then that's something they will just have to deal with. And once baby is here, everyone will be so happy and excited about meeting the little one that they will probably just forget you never told them anyway.
Hope you get it your way sweet.
Ellie xxx
I guess it depends how it all happens though as ideally I'll go into labour at home and spend some time here before going to hospital for the final stages. If that happens I think I'll find it difficult to stop my husband telling close relatives that I'm having contractions etc. If that's what you want then it doesn't matter what others think though, you'll just need to be clear with your birth partner who/when they can tell! xxx
When I told people that I wasnt going to let them know until baby was here I did get some negative and sometimes quite nasty comments. I just explained that this was a special time for me and hubby and we wanted to be able to enjoy it together on our own as we bought the newest member of our family into the world. We didnt want to feel like we had to keep updating people on progress or have people calling hubby all the time to see how I was doing.
My mum kept to her word and managed to dodge all the bullets of people calling her and we got to tell everybody ourselves that Finley was here once we had enjoyed being together as a three and were ready to let other people into our little bubble.
Although people were negative to begin with they soon came round and alot of them said that it was actually really nice when they found out Finley was here.
Sorry I have gone on but in answer to your question, no you are not the only one who feels this way and you are the one that has to do all the hard work so I would do what will make you happy
just want to focus on meeting my little guy now, can't wait
I think I'd prefer to tell people after, I wouldn't want the added pressure of knowing that everyone is waiting expectantly...
my parents in law knew as they were our lift to the hosp, so they are the only ones who knew
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We hadn't planned on telling anyone about me being in labour - despite my FIL asking to be notified (I think not as throughout the entire pregnancy he was worried that something would go wrong...he has his reasons but still... no need to make the man worry any further!). I told my sister (who was also pregnant at the time) that I was having a sweep with the midwife. My contractions started that night. My mum phoned me the following day as my sister had told her about the sweep. I was just on my mobile to the hospital to see if we could come in as I'd been in labour for almost 20hours and wanted to make sure we were getting somewhere! Anyway, she really wasn't the sort of person I wanted to talk to whilst in labour as she always described having a baby as no worse than having been constipated and finally going for a poo - and there is no need to make a fuss!! Luckily I managed to breathe through my contractions so I didn't get critisized by her :P Really didn't feel like having an extended chat though...
Our son was born that night at 2am after about 6hours in hospital.
We sent everyone a text the next morning (at a more sociable hour of 7am) and that was good enough!
When we have our 2nd baby we will obviously have to let someone know as they will need to look after our son, but that'll be different...
a friend of hubbys actually had the mother and sister in law already be at the hospital waiting by the time he made the call to tell them the baby was here. i told my parents that if they did that theyd be in trouble.