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How long did it take for you to get BF established
I'm wondering how long it took you and your LO's to get the latch ok and things like that.
I'm hoping to BF when our first lo's born in November and am currently arguing with hubby about what we're doing for Christmas. If they arrive on their due date (unlikely I know) they'll be 5 weeks. He's insisting his entire family to come and stay with us. I'm not sure this is a good idea, one of my reasons is Bf'ing. I'm worried that if we're still struggling then I'm going to be trying to be trying to get lo latched properly with all my in-laws sat watching and I'm really not comfortable with that idea. Once they're latched on I don't think it would be as bad (i.e. nothing to see), but I'm worried about getting stressed out with each and every feed. Hubby thinks I'm making a song and dance about nothing.
So as people that have been there roughly how long did it take before you felt like you knew what you were doing?
Any help and advice is welcome I'm getting stressed by it already and I'm only 17 weeks pregnant.
I'm hoping to BF when our first lo's born in November and am currently arguing with hubby about what we're doing for Christmas. If they arrive on their due date (unlikely I know) they'll be 5 weeks. He's insisting his entire family to come and stay with us. I'm not sure this is a good idea, one of my reasons is Bf'ing. I'm worried that if we're still struggling then I'm going to be trying to be trying to get lo latched properly with all my in-laws sat watching and I'm really not comfortable with that idea. Once they're latched on I don't think it would be as bad (i.e. nothing to see), but I'm worried about getting stressed out with each and every feed. Hubby thinks I'm making a song and dance about nothing.
So as people that have been there roughly how long did it take before you felt like you knew what you were doing?
Any help and advice is welcome I'm getting stressed by it already and I'm only 17 weeks pregnant.
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For me the last thing I'd want is for the whole family to come and stay just a few weeks after giving birth, at that stage all you feel like doing is sleeping. The baby could be late, or you could have a cs, which will take about 6 weeks to recover.
Could they stay in hotels instead, and maybe just pop in for a visit?
I think my last hope is they stay in a hotel, he's insistent that they come as he doesn't want his Dad to use up his holiday when they could just come at Christmas. We're 400 miles from both our families, my mum struggles to travel this far and even if she could she's said she wouldn't come up till a bit later on and things were a bit more settled.
He thinks it'll be fine as his mum will help him with the cooking, he doesn't see that it's hard to even relax when we have guests. Last time they came up he got himself into a right flap cooking them a meal he's cooked numerous times before, but apparently it won't be like that when we have a baby.
Breastfeeding is hard work to start with and it can take weeks to get it sorted. I would say we were I to the swing of things by about 6 weeks. I would say though that I was really worried about feeding in front of people like my FIL but i can honestly say it was not a big deal at all. I just got on with it and noone seemed to bat an eyelid!
I just wanted to say that I agree with the above post in that just 5 weeks after giving birth I could not have coped with family staying! I would not have been able to cope with a newborn and 'hoasting' even my closest family and friends for longer than a few hours! It is a very emotional time and if you are like me and need your own space I would try and keep them in a hotel!
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6 weeks is the golden number in breastfeeding. The vast majority of people stop breastfeeding by week 6. If you get past that it seems easy!
If you get some nursing tops or dresses its easier to be discrete.
Build up your confidence by bdfing at bf coffee mornings etc that thew nct do. Bumpsa and babies. At places like that everyone has their boobs out at some point and it stops being an issue.
I breastfeed my 14 month old. Once you get past a certain point there's no point stopping and increasing your outgoings buying formulae
Rennee - I tried telling him no way, but he threw his toys out the pram. I've kinda been backed into agreeing to them coming to try to keep the peace. Something I'm less than happy about.
I know when I had visitors in the first few weeks if it was getting a bit much I'd just take baby and disappear for a bit, no one minded much.
Good luck with it