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Judging
Do you think young mothers are often judged/looked down on?
I have noticed this quite a bit. I was 19 when I had my little girl, I'm 22 now and she has just gone 3. Some people still have the odd snide remark (mainly my neighbour), and I've never really understood it.
Anyone can be a good mother, a bad mother. Age shouldn't be used against someone in my opinion.
What about you guys? Have you ever been victim to others judgements/presumptions? Does it bother you?
I have noticed this quite a bit. I was 19 when I had my little girl, I'm 22 now and she has just gone 3. Some people still have the odd snide remark (mainly my neighbour), and I've never really understood it.
Anyone can be a good mother, a bad mother. Age shouldn't be used against someone in my opinion.
What about you guys? Have you ever been victim to others judgements/presumptions? Does it bother you?
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This prob quite off your mark but im 22 and engaged to a wonderful man(22). im pregnant 34wks and his granny being who she is told me and him when we went to tell her OUR good news she told me to have an abortion, app im too young and because we are not married. she called me many things i will not repeat. she now denies that convo because no one from his family is talking to her. i felt so bad for weeks that she of all people would have said tht to her ONLY grandson(and me). basicly my point is you can be a great mum no matter what your age is as long as you have the support of your family and friends and love for your new bundle of pooping crying joy you will be fine. age is just a number, its what you have to give to the baby that counts.
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Yup, I can't remember anyone actually saying rude comments to me, but I notice a lot of people stare at me when I'm out with my DD. It's extremely annoying, as obviously those people don't know the situation, and they don't know that I'm actually an amazing mother and work really hard, even if I am younger than the average age to start having children.
Just try to ignore it, I say. I'm pretty much used to it now. However I bet it'll crack up a notch once I'm pregnant with baby number two!
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I obv speak to the other mums and the only thing i have noticed difference in is what we expect from our children. now i wouldnt encourage my children to be young parents but i think its neive to act like it will NEVER happen-they think there is no way their little angels will do that!