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toddler hurting new baby... :-(
hey,
advice needed please...
My DS is 5 weeks old, my DD is 27 months old. So far she's had extra tantrums but has loved her little bro, she's been very gentle with him and hasn't minded me feeding him at all. She has wanted to be a baby more, for example wanting a dummy (even though she never even had one), wanting her nappy changed on his change mat, wanting to breast feed from me (I've not done this and have explained to her that she has her milk from a bottle and when her bro is a little older he too will have a bottle just like her)...
Then yesterday, she hit him in the face! I was so shocked, I super nanny-ed it, and gave her a warning explaining to her why it was not nice. She did it again so she went on her naughty corner step for 2 mins, then explained why she was there, kissed her and made her say sorry to him. Today the same has happened again, but this time head butting him...
Like I said I am shocked. She has always been a very gentle child, and we never have problems with her hurting others at the toddler groups we go to or when she is at nursery.
Any tips/advice on how to handle this very welcome? I am dreading what tomorrow brings and worrying about my DS, I don't want her hurting him badly...
thanks x
advice needed please...
My DS is 5 weeks old, my DD is 27 months old. So far she's had extra tantrums but has loved her little bro, she's been very gentle with him and hasn't minded me feeding him at all. She has wanted to be a baby more, for example wanting a dummy (even though she never even had one), wanting her nappy changed on his change mat, wanting to breast feed from me (I've not done this and have explained to her that she has her milk from a bottle and when her bro is a little older he too will have a bottle just like her)...
Then yesterday, she hit him in the face! I was so shocked, I super nanny-ed it, and gave her a warning explaining to her why it was not nice. She did it again so she went on her naughty corner step for 2 mins, then explained why she was there, kissed her and made her say sorry to him. Today the same has happened again, but this time head butting him...
Like I said I am shocked. She has always been a very gentle child, and we never have problems with her hurting others at the toddler groups we go to or when she is at nursery.
Any tips/advice on how to handle this very welcome? I am dreading what tomorrow brings and worrying about my DS, I don't want her hurting him badly...
thanks x
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Yes giving lots of praise for good behaviour, and stickers for doing kind things for her brother like helping me do his nappy etc. It's the feeding she suddenly has a problem with. bless her, it must be so hard being the only one to suddenly having to share mummy.
Lots of people have read my post - any other advice???? I feel like I'm doing the right things (super nanny-ing it) but she's not yet responding... I guess it is early days and it will take time but I'd love to hear of any other experiences/tips...........
x :?
i do hope they will grow out of the phase... keep up the discipline i guess!! :roll:
havent actualy got any advice for you but im dreding this happening. My little girl is just under 3 and im due any day with my 2nd. Generaly she's a good girl, but she does get cross about things when they dont go her way.
Obveously they find it hard to express themselves properly and dont realy understand, especialy when they have been so used to your undivided attention for so long!
Sounds like your doing well tho with the praise and stickers. Also the suppernanny trick -we have a 'simmer down step' tho rather than a naughty step, as it works better for us. Just helps her to calm down realy, but we still have a kiss and cuddle after and talk to her about what she has done wrong and why it was nasty/naughty/etc.
One thing i am going to try, mainly because my little one already loves role play and playing with her 'babies', is let her do every thing with me. So ive bought her a change bag and pretend nappies, bottles and a sling for her baby, hopefully this will keep her more involved......i hope anyway!
It's so hard isnt it, but it sounds like your doing a good job! x
i must say maybe i was panicking too soon, as the naughty behaviour (which was as i said very out of character) lasted about a week and this week has been so much better!! i know there are going to be good times and more challenging times but i'm pleased she seems to be starting to deal with and get used to these new changes.
Hope things improve for you quickly,