Insensitive Comments!!!!
Am I being completely unreasonable?!
One of my best friends, who has 4 children, has just posted on facebook that she has been pregnant or breastfeeding 85 out of the last 100 months and never will again, so she is bereft.
Bereft?! Oh you poor thing. 4 children not enough for you?!? Try the thought of never being able to carry yourown child and never breast feeding. Thats "bereft".
To be fair, I havn't told her about our struggles, I have just said we can't afford children yet, but I'm pretty sure its a transparent lie and its still thoughtless.
Its also galling that they have a similar income to us, but have been able to afford a huge extension & new kitchen and rented a 2nd house while this was being done. How the hell??!!!
Rant over!
One of my best friends, who has 4 children, has just posted on facebook that she has been pregnant or breastfeeding 85 out of the last 100 months and never will again, so she is bereft.
Bereft?! Oh you poor thing. 4 children not enough for you?!? Try the thought of never being able to carry yourown child and never breast feeding. Thats "bereft".
To be fair, I havn't told her about our struggles, I have just said we can't afford children yet, but I'm pretty sure its a transparent lie and its still thoughtless.
Its also galling that they have a similar income to us, but have been able to afford a huge extension & new kitchen and rented a 2nd house while this was being done. How the hell??!!!
Rant over!
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Ok, I'll just trot along and find me a husband....or maybe I should just get knocked up by the first man who comes along? Stupid thing to say!
Yes, I'm sure they're in a lot of debt, but to be able to afford the loan in itself is unthinkable for us. I just don't understand how its possible. I'm in a bit of a "feeling sorry for myself" mood today!
And my "newly pregnant" colleague told me that she would start for #2 as soon as possible as she didn't want to be in my position.
They're not being intentionally mean. They just haven't been there and have NOOOOO idea how hard this is.
Also, I think FB is such a gloaty, show-off place. I hate smug statuses. People put on a front, hun. You never know what is going on behind closed doors. Everything may seem rosy for them but it might not be the case.
Have a rant, a cry ... whatever you need but don't dwell on it too long. Don't waste time thinking about those unthinking people.
some people will never realise how lucky they are. . and some people really don't no they are upsetting you cos they so wrapped US in themselves. . and there world.
unless they walked a mile in your shoes or should i say years in our shoes they Wil never understand the feeling of perhaps never being able to have one child. big hugs chick x x hope its gonna be your time soon x x